is there a moment where friends can not longer be

[Tjdude]

A friend of mine told me once that there is a time where a man a women can no longer be friends any more, you know, after a long time of being friends, she said that; either you take the next step and go into a more close relationship as b/f and g/f (if both agree) or kinda brake off the friendship.
What do u think? I'm talking about single friends with no commitments to other people.
I agree in part because that happen to me once or twice before, after some time of friendship with some one, one of the two goes and say something and after that there is no turning back, what ever you said is final, and things are never the same, so either everything goes to hell or if you are lucky you get a brand new g/f .
Any thoughts will be apreciated. Gl.

[thetease13]

i think a male and a female can remain just friends. i really do.
i guarantee there are people from high school that i would still be just friends with if we hadn't all graduated in different years and went our separate ways to college.

i've always been a person who has gotten along with males much better than i have females. i've had more male "best friends" than i have female. and i don't find anything wrong with that....even if there are people like my mom who thinks a guy and girl cannot be just friends.

however, all that being said, i do think that feelings can develop for the other person but not so much in the sense that you want/need/have to act upon them. i think feelings can just make a person feel closer to you and everyone needs a close friend.

[-SpUd-]

i agree, ive got a best friend whoz a girl and i love her 2 pieces but only as a friend, sure i wudnt mind gettin closer 2 her, but id never push it 2 the point where its all or nothing! cuz it wud always b sumthing i wud regret.
plus i think a guy needs a girl 2 b friends wiv, cuz your always goin 2 have problems or questions a guy cnt help u with! i guess it all depends on wether your willing 2 hold on 2 tht friendship!

[secretly_shy]

Im female, and have been friends with someone since the day i was born!

His mum and my mums were friends, and came to visit me in hospital when i was born, and we played together as lickle kids, hung out as teenagers, and the friendship continues even tho im 2years into uni and he's working full time.

I firmly believe in "forever friendships!"

[WallyLlama]

Interesting question... I think "forever friendships" can be difficult for many different reasons, including the fact that two different individuals are always changing, both in circumstance and in needs and wants.

Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't.

When we're talking about m/f friendships the potential for physical attraction can certainly complicate things.

I have known women who have been very special... sometimes the relationship deepened with the logical result that we felt close mentally and emotionally. Whether or not that lead to physical closeness was a choice we had to make.

Of course it's not simply about whether or not you're going to sleep together... but I do think some people are capable of "compartmentalizing." Just because I think a lot like another person, that doesn't mean we should become a couple. Just because I feel strongly for another person, that doesn't mean we should become a couple.

Others find it difficult to maintain intimacy on one level only.

Maybe we're always making the choice but we just don't realize it?

[JNII]

I would have to answer yes and no to your question. In my experience it is possible to have a friendship with a female who you have zero intimate feelings or attractions to. I friend that is a girl who I can condsider one of my closest friends. Shes there for emotional support and we laugh and have fun like any other normal male friend.

But at the same time I have a "friend" who I am in love with. Sometimes we lap over into the "friends with benefits" territory, but as of now we are just "friends". Despite teh fact I call her a friend, it is impossible for me to be just her friend. Living like that is a constant tease and source of pain to me. SO to answer your question, it is possible to have a femae friend but it is also possible to be unhappy with that friendship despite your efforts.

[Poetic Skye]

My best friend is a guy, but he's practically like my evil twin brother. Okay it might help that he's bisexual, but either way, neither one of us are attracted at all to each other. It kinda annoys me when people look at us and think that we're going to be a couple in the future. It simply will never happen. You truly should only break off a friendship if there are feelings there that neither one of you act on, but continue getting into relationships with other people. Wouldn't you feel bad if your boyfriend secretly had feelings for his close friend but never acted on them. You never know what would happen, and that brings down the relationship from day one. But if you two are the kind of people who think that friendship is much more important than ending it over feelings, then you should always be friends. Just don't have each other joined at the hip. Also, if ur friend happens to be completely gay, you won't have a problem, unless you're joined at the hip while you're dating someone else. To answer your question in shorter words- the moment when you and your friend of the opposite sex can no longer be is when you truly don't want the friendship above other intentions of being around the person. I hope that made sense. Good Day!