can friends go further?

[5nchr]

okay well i have this friend and she's a year older than me, and i never thought of her as sexy, but last month we went swimming together and i discovered she has a great body. since i've noticed that... well she's all around hot, and obviously i like her personality because we're friends.

my question is should i like take another step or just sit on it. . please help. can't get her outta my head!

[thetease13]

only you can really decide if you want to take it further than just friends.

really, a lot of great friends make great lovers because they know how each other works.
but there is always that chance that the other does not feel the same and it can in fact damage the friendship.

so really, it's all up to you.
if you want to try to make the next move, go for it...just remember there can be consequences you may not like.

[lilly2279]

Well she may be wondering the same thing about you and asking herself why you haven't made a move yet!

The tease is right, tho. If you make a move and she rejects you, can you handle that?

Do you just want to have sex with her or are you thinking of dating her now? Sounds like you two may be great friends that could turn into something really wonderful.

Here is how I would approach it. Maybe jokingly say something about fooling around or even ask kind of non chalantly if she's ever thought about the two of you being more than friends... If she's Like "ewwww, no way! You're my buddy!" then back off and laugh and say "yeah, I know, that would be weird, huh?" lol, then just let it slide. If she looks you in the eyes and blushes. I'd kiss her!

[WallyLlama]

If the basis for your change of feelings is seeing her in a bathing suit, I'd say you need to have a long talk with yourself before saying or doing anythiing with her!

They're called raging hormones... it's very easy to confuse lust with love.

Good friendships are hard to find. Don't muck it up because you're horny.

Not saying it's out of the question, but I think you ought to proceed slowly and thoughtfully.