Love for Younger Girl

[JNII]

This is a very long story, but I will try to abridge it as best as I possibly can.

I am bound for college at the end of this summer, but the probem is I am madly in love with a younger girl who will still be in high school.
I have known this girl for over a year and we have never been officially going out for many reasons, yet I know we both have feelings of love for each other. We have not had sex but have done sexual things and have admitted lovin g each other. But the only differencd isx that my feelings are completley open adn she hides hers. For she has even admitted this to me. She is trying hard to seperate herself from me because she is scared of getting hurt and being abandoned when I leave. Even though things are sometimes great, more often then not she holds back from me and it sends me on a complete emotional roller coaster ride. Even though we are like best friends and chill together almost everydaya dn occasionally hook up, I can feel something is missing, to a point where i love this girl so much and she is so beautiful it hurts me. I want to deidcate my life to her but ic ant because she refuses to attatch herself ot me before I go to college.

If anyone can helop me Id be grateful, also if anyone plans on advising me to deal with this by moving on and trying ot make her jealous etc or try to be an asshole I will not even bother listwening to you. I am too close to this girl.

Thank you

[Greendale]

Eh, how old is she? If she's underage, then forget her.

[makebeleiveguru]

i only skimmed through your entry but i would say, let this girl go, have fun in collage and when she is at the legal age, 18, go with her and see if your feelings are still there... if ur meant to be then ur meant to be... and love can wait a couple years if it is true!

[lilly2279]

One thing you didn't really mention was whether or not you have told her exactly how you feel about her?

If you two are great friends and hooking up, maybe she thinks that is all you want and is afraid to want more, afraid you will run scared. If she doesn't know how you feel, she can't put herself out there, perhaps.

If you have told her and she claims she is scared, then have a talk with her. She can't be scared for the rest of her life. If she is unwilling to trust, you may have to accept that and move on to someone who is willing to open up to you. Be honest and straightforward and tell her you expect the same. You need to know if there is a chance for the two of you at all.

[Greendale]

I can see this dude is afraid to tell her age in public, it's obvious he's dating an underage girl.

[lilly2279]

Geeeeze, Greendale! *

The guy just said he was off to college. *So he's probably like 18 or 19. *I think it can be a pretty common occurance for a senior to date a freshman, junior, senior, etc.... * So when they turn 18, the girl will still be underage.

I mean wouldn't that happen? *Have you seen the 16 year olds walking around nowadays that look about 25??

[JNII]

Im just a kid too, we arent even 3 years apart. I'm hust as it is this is such and ups and downs relationship that breaks my heart.

[Greendale]

Well that's what you get when you make posts about dating a young girl, people will quickly assume you're dating someone underage when you're afraid and you still didn't give this girls age.

You started off sounding very negative in this first post of your thread, you called us to not be an "asshole" or you won't be replying to us but you replied to us anyway.

[lilly2279]

come on guys, let's be cool about this. The guy is not a child molestor.

He's young, he's got questions. That's what this is here for.

If he was a divorced male in love with a high school girl or the babysitter and very obviously much older and in the wrong, it would be a different story.

Please think back to high school. As a senior, were you not attracted to any girls younger than you?? Guys are always attracted to younger girls - let's be real.. My boyfriend is 6 years older than me. If we would have dated in high school, that would have been icky, lol.

But these are both young people, we've established that. Right? Why would he want to say her age? If he's 18 and she's 15, you guys are going to immediately think of a 15 year old in pig tails holding a dolly. Please go to the mall and look at the teenagers 13 and over? Make sense?

[WallyLlama]

But, Lilly, if I go to the mall and look at those 13 year olds, people will call me a perv!

LOL Of course, being called a perv may not be such a bad thing.

It does amaze me sometimes how much anger there is in the world in general and too often on this board. There are too many posts that have a "only reply if you agree with me" tone and too much "my way of thinking is the only way of thinking." And I'm not just talking about this thread.

Usually I'm too tired to get involved. LOL

Yawn.