"I need some suggestions" too

[vagabondprince]

this is gonna sound strikingly familiar, cuz i'm kind of asking the same thing as the dude that had that original post.

My girlfriend bought me a plane ticket up to see her over the weekend of the 4th. i feel like bringing her a gift up, but draw a total blank as to what i should get her.i am already getting her a vibrator and a independence day teddy bear, but those are small simple things. any ideas? and i'm thinking tangible things, not acts. i have plenty of tricks up my sleeve for while i'm there

[lilly2279]

Some things we may need to help you out...

How old is she?

How much was your plane ticket? (are you trying to compensate for the price of the ticket?)

How long have you been dating?

How much do you like/love her?

How much money do you have for this gift?

[vagabondprince]

i'm not trying to compensate, just say thank you. anyway, she's 19, we've been together about ten months (but away from each other for two of those now, which is why i'm so anxious right now...about to go through the roof) and i love her. a lot. the way things were going before we parted for the summer, and from our convos over the phone i can only hope this turns into a life long relationship... i guess that's the best way to describe it.

[WallyLlama]

Sometimes it's not the gift, it's the delivery.

I once gave a gal (friend, not lover unfortunately LOL) a coffee cup with a little speech about the fact that I wanted her to have something that "made" her think of me every morning. (It was a goodbye gift as I was leaving the area.)

YEARS later we happened to reconnect and she told me this incredible story... how she'd been "weird" about the cup... never let anyone else use it, etc. One day it simply shattered in her hand and she "cried for days" as if she was in mourning until she realized she didn't need the cup, she still had the memory.

Okay, maybe she was bullshitting me, but I liked her bullshit as much as she liked her cup. And, yes, I did send a replacement.

Gifts are (or should be) symbolic. Putting your personal touch on them is what counts. (How about not getting batteries for her vibrator, but putting a note with it that says, "You won't need this while I'm here!&quot

What ever it is, make it about her, about you, or about the two of you together... the sort of thing that she'll be flooded with fond thoughts and memories whenever she sees or uses it.

Wally

[Tessie]

Oh Wally! That was the sweetest story. And your advice was dead on.

So, I don't have nothing much to add except to agree with Wally's woman in the story that we really do hang on to something that is given from the heart.

I also like what is long lasting. The two best gift I personally recieved recently was a wood carving of my name with a symbol of my faith on it. Given to me by my husband and daughter. The other is a story that was written for me. They are both very personal and just for me.

Think along those lines and you will do fine.