some advice please

[flyinace]

hey 1st time posting here but i would like some advice.

well there is this girl and we have hung out a few times and we both know and have basically told each other how we feel and like each other. now she doesnt want a boyfriend right now for some other reasons, i wont go into them but the problem is when we are together and alone i wanna make a move to kiss her and stuff like that. now just being friends it just is different for me, like when they are your girlfriend you are expected to do this. now what would be the best way to go about doing this and what situations would you suggest getting in to be in the position to make a good move? thanks alot

[thetease13]

Well, honestly, I think if she doesn't want a boyfriend you should respect that and not try to make a move on her and not try to get into the right position to make a move on her.
By doing so you would be betraying her trust as her friend.

Now, if you want to be friends with benefits, that's a different story. But that's something BOTH of you have to agree to and not just one of you.

[flyinace]

yeah i said it kinda funny..we both like each other she just doesnt want the title..we pretty much just started being close because we both liked each other, if she was just my friend and stuff i wouldnt try anything but thanks for the reply.

[thetease13]

well at first you made it seem as if she didn't want a boyfriend at all. not just the title boyfriend.
if it's just the title she doesn't want, then hell, go for friends with benefits. lol.
that's what my relationship is. it's a friend with benefits. granted, it's not because of the title thing, it's for a whole other reason. but if i have to put some sort of title with it, that's what it's gonna be.

[flyinace]

yeah friends with benefits is what you would call it. now im back to trying to make the move

[thetease13]

just, go for it.

i know, i know, it's easier said than done. but when you're caught up in the moment or something, just lean in for the kiss.

[Chryseis]

I'd agree with thetease. If you've already discussed this and know that she's interested, there's nothing wrong with just going for a kiss. If you like, there's probably nothing wrong with a romantic movie or something to help set the mood.

If you're really, really, really nervous, maybe try just leaning in towards her and see if she leans in too?

[lilly2279]

Here's how I think you should make your move...

Sit close to her on the couch. Let her sit first and then sit next to her casually with your arm along the back of the couch behind her. After you're both feeling comfortable with that proximity, maybe play *gently* with her hair, brush your hand lightly along the back of her neck when doing this. This will most likely make her kinda look at you, maybe a giggle will erupt. Just look her in the eyes. If she looks back at you seriously, go in for the kiss. I would think once you get into the kissing, if the sexual energy is already there, things will progress smoothly. he he