i dont know what to do

[david m]

Someone please help me.I have known this girl for so many years since kindergarden and *we graduated from school and are in our 20's.

I love her so much and i am scared to tell her i keep chickening out.

We know everything about eachother
we have have always been their for eachother

How do i know if she feels the same way?
How do i tell her how i feel?

Please help me please

[thetease13]

I'm a big wuss when it comes to telling people how I feel in person. So I do the best thing I know how.
I write a letter.
I sit in front of my computer and type and whatever comes out, comes out, and after I'm done, I feel a lot better.
I talk myself in and out of giving it to the person when I'm done, but once I do, I'm very happy I did it. I got a lot of things out in the open and atleast they know somewhat of how I feel.

So I suggest the letter thing.
No, it's not everyone's cup of tea, but if you're anything like me, it works wonders. They got me brave enough to say I love you in person to my guy, so maybe they can help for you too.

[david m]

I would like to write her a letter but she knows me to well
she knows everything about me i would rather tell her how i feel face to face.I just care so much about her and i guess it is safe to say I love her we have known eachother forever.
Ill see her in a few days and this time i cant chicken out any help please.

[Tessie]

JUST DO IT!!!

Sit her down where you two will not be interupted and take her hands and look into her eyes and tell her.

Now don't freak out if at first she is shocked or taken aback. If she hasn't known you have these feelings then it could make her feel a little weird.

Just be the guy she knows so well but let her know how you have these feelings and had to tell her once and for all.

Let her absorb this info. Whatever she says just take it in stride. Once she has time to reflect on what you have said she might find herself liking the idea of you loving her and find that she is in love with you too.

Or she might just say she loves you too and what took you so damn long to tell her.

Good luck and let us know how it goes. You can do it. *

[thetease13]

but the letter has nothing to do with her knowing you too well.

all it has to say is something along the lines of i've known you for some time...blah blah blah...and i've had these feelings for quite some time and blah blah blah.

if you don't wanna write the letter, it's cool. it's just a suggestion. like i said, it doesn't always work for everyone.

it personally took me a lot of courage to say "i love you" and i almost chickened out. i started off like 10 minutes before saying i have something to tell you, and eventually i got him to follow me to someplace more quiet and the whole time he was following me and asking me what i kept going i dunno if i should tell you...and eventually i just spun around and said it more or less because if i didn't say it then, i probably would have never said it.

so you just have to go with it. make it a spur of the moment thing.

[david m]

Tomarrow we are going to the park she wanted to go to the park so i will tell her their.I hope this works i will just be myself and try to relax.

[duckie]

Also do a little something out of the norm. If she likes flowers by her a single rose to give to her.

But, I have to agree with the previous posts.

Good luck!

[david m]

I think she just wants to be friends.Part of me is just saying just stay friends with her.I should just listen to myself.Thanks for your help.I know one of these days ill find ther right girl for me.

[Tessie]

Sorry David it sounds like it didn't go as you had hoped. But you know you can always keep trying and maybe do little things to let her know how you feel about her.

Be subtle and classy. Try sending some e-cards, or a special e-mail, mail a Hallmark just because. Little things. Keep yourself in her mind and be patient.

Never say never is my motto.

[Starr]

Did you actually tell her something along the lines of "i really like you" or did you half chicken out or try to read her vibe's ?

cause I'm telling you now, chances are that if you tried to figgure out what she feels you may be very wrong. and if you have known her as long as you have your friendship will stand up to some feelings being shared. I promise. As I see it, it can only really go 2 ways:


I) she will say something like "thats very flattering, thanks but no thanks" and you'll have a rough patch and then you'll both resume your friendship and be able to look back and laugh

or

II) She'll say "me too" or "I havn't thought much about that" but lets give it a try" ... and you'll be greatful you did.


I hope I'm not being way to over simplistic, maybe I was just lucky... my guy went for option one, for about a week before changing his mind to option 2.




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