I'm I just dragging it out?

[Clueless15]

Hey everyone, thanks for reading about my situation..... I was wondering what you all thought about what i should do, My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 7 months now, but lately we have been having some problems. He has a shy personality in the first place and he doesn’t really talk much, but he usually did with me. And within the last month or so he has gradually been talking less and less to me, we still hang out the same amount of time and everything, he just doesn’t talk much when we do. I kind of feel like he is blowing me off in a way. I don’t think that’s what he is trying to do, that’s just not the kind of person he is. But I tried to talk to him, I called him and told him I needed to talk with him, but I thought it was something we should do in person not over the phone. When we saw each other next I tried to get him to talk about our relationship and what he though was going on and how he felt about everything really. But he was just like I don’t want to talk about it now. I few things have been said since then but they weren’t things that would improve the relationship. Also something is that he is 17 and I am 15 almost 16, because this is a high school relationship should I put all this work into keeping things together or just let it go. I really “love” him, But it would just be easier to break thing off and just date for awhile. I have been thinking and thinking for ever it seems and I just don’t know what to do. If you need any more info on the situation ask me, I really want to do the best thing, I just don’t want to throw away a 7 month relationship unless it has just been spent. ANY HELP? Thanks!

[oberon]

Sounds to me like you are doing all the work to make this a relationship. In my opinion he only has one question left to come: Do you want to work on this or not? A no or "no answer" would get him the boot. I wouldn't worry too much about "throwing away" a seven month relationship. Take the good stuff and remember to learn from the bad, and move on. You're young and have the potential to meet sooo many more people.

Good Luck.

[lilly2279]

It's always hard to make the decision to make things work or not. Should I stay or should I go? You're young. yeah, you spent 7 months so far, but don't waste 7 more by clinging on if he's not even acting interested anymore. I agree with asking "do you wanna continue or not?" and listen. If he doesn't know what he wants tell him that maybe you should take the time to think about it and get out and meet other people.

Don't stress this early in life about relationships. You have a whole lot more stress in the future to do, trust me! lol.

[WallyLlama]

Lilly's last paragraph is so true! * But it IS hard to make these sort of decisions and these "first relationships" seem oh so important!

One of the difficult distinctions to make is whether it's the relationship or the person that it's all about. It seems to me that many of the "early relationships" tend to be more about "having someone" than having THE one. That's not necessarily a bad thing but it can become one if you work at saving a relationship with someone who's not right for you.

And it's not an age thing - some people never grow out of it. It just becomes too important to "have someone" and to some extent, it doesn't matter who that person is!

One other thing I'd add: remember that ending a relationship does not equate to failure. I don't mean to make relationships sound trite, but it's like trying different flavors of ice cream.

At some point you stop buying the flavor that doesn't taste good. That does not mean you've failed at eating ice cream!

It's a silly example... but think about it. Oh, and you may even find that somewhere down the road you try the flavor you didn't like and it tastes better. That's because things change.

Wally