Taking a relationship to the next level

[Gooie]

Hey, this is my first post here so be nice

I have been out with this girl a few times and I really like her and I know she likes me. Im not sure if she likes me as a friend or as a possible lover. Any ideas on how I can approach this situation to find out where I stand with her and not come off looking like a tool or make it seem like im coming on too strong? I just want to 'Test the water' so to speak.

Thanks in advance.

[oberon]

Hi Gooie, and welcome.

I'm going to go out on a limb here, and say, "Ask her." Seems the simplest and most direct way to me. Just tell her you like her and would like to get to know her better- and what does she think. I think after a few dates it's okay to want to know how things stand. So you won't look like a tool in my opinion...lol.

[Greendale]

Asking is the only way to do it. But don't ask her after having only a few dates with her like you said. Because you never know how this girl is going to come out to be. You never know it could be a girl you shouldn't trust. So before asking for a serious relationship, you must get to know her well enough first. Just keep dating her for at least "a year", and then ask her if she wants a committed relationship.

If she says "Yes", congratulions.

If she says "No", then move on, continue to be close friends with her and try to get seroius with someone else.

There are many women all over the world.

Women don't like to rush things. If you ask sex or a serious relationship with her right away, she's going to think that you're obssessed with her, and she will think that all you want from her is sex, so be careful. It can get easy to screw up a relationship (as I've done many times, I learn a lot) so you really need to slow things down and build things up.