Trying new things

[Pammy]

I've tried to get my bf to tie me up before we have sex. He's never agrred to this because he says he is worried of hurting me... how can I try and convince him to do it?

[Greendale]

Just tie him up first to see if he likes it, after that take turns and maybe he'll agree to do it you then. I don't know. LOL.

[WallyLlama]

Two suggestions: explore his fear rationally. I really doubt this is the case, but he may know that he has a dark side. It's more likely that he just hasn't thought about it rationally. If he's loving and caring... how could you being restrained change a thing?

Second, use ribbon or heavy yarn... something that won't cut or bind and that you could break very easily.

Can I have a third? LOL Just thought of this... it's possible he's afraid that you will want a turn tying him up and he may actually be afraid of that. (The old "if I do that to her she'll want to do it to me and I don't want that" thing.)

The key in all of this is that it's not a high-pressure sales pitch. You genuinely want to understand why he feels the way he does... and you want him to understand you.

[Tessie]

Good advice from Wally. But he always has good advice on here. *

As a woman that enjoys that sort of thing once in awhile we have found things that work. Like Wally said use something that is not too binding. Handcuffs suck in my opinion. I like silk ties or a soft rope.

Also before that you can just get him to hold your hands down so he can see how you respond and like that while you are having sex. I like that very much. I also like it when I am cumming he will put his hand on my throat to keep me in place. The light restraint really gets me going.

Many coulples have a code word they use to make things stop. I just say "knock it off" *

As I always say its about communication. You both must be totally honest in what you want and what your fears are.

Good luck