Calling other girls pet names

[cuddlebunni]

I just found out the other day that my b/f calls his other friends that are female "sweetie" or "hun". Is it right for him to call them that? I feel that those are pet names that couples should use, not friends. I have talked to him about it and he says he's just being gentlemanly. Am I just jealous? What do you think?

[oberon]

Cuddlebunni, I think as long as he sticks to "generic pet names", it's okay. I didn't check and see where you are from, but, generally speaking in the south this is the norm. In fact, being gay, I sometimes called both male and female friends "honey", "sugar", or "darlin'". After all, the average Waffle House waitress will ask, "You want 'maters on that salad, hun?"...lol. Only if it gets more intimate do you need to worry.

[cuddlebunni]

I'm from Canada, it's not as normal here as in the south...when he uses it, he adresses them like "hey sweetie, blah blah" I think it bothers me becuase he calls me sweetie all the time too @_@

[LittleFury]

It depends on how he does it and to whom. My bf calls some of his friends pet names. But...most of those girls either my friends or I know them and I don't mind it. If he sees that it's hurting me though, he stops it immediatly. So it's sort of, people who we both consider safe, it's cool to use SOME pet names, those who are not, we stay away from it. But we also have pet names for each other that are rather far from generic.

[Rawbob]

In this age of Political Correctness, i suppose you could argue that it's not appropriate for a married guy (or a guy in a relationship) to call another woman by a pet name......BUT.....i find myself ALWAYS saying, "Hey sweetie, how was your weekend with your hubby."

I probably overuse the "sweetie"..but it's a term of endearment i use with my closer friends and co-workers...never strangers!

I understand your feelings...especially if he calls YOU sweetie and Hun too...but i'd bet it just slips out and he dosn't give it much thought.

[Tessie]

I call everyone by a pet name. Sweetie, hun, baby, sugar, luv, et. But I am in the South.

I have had to explain to my married friends from other countries in chat why I just said "hi honey". They like it after I explain to them that it doesn't always mean something.

[WallyLlama]

I'll bet it's a habit aas much as anything. (Although I'm having trouble figuring out how calling somebody "Sweetie" qualifies as "gentlemanly.&quot

Yes, you are being jealous.

Look at the ways he considers you his Special Sweetie and get this into perspective.

Wally

[lilly2279]

Hmmmm. Could just be his way of not having to learn names! I've got guys hon before when they call and I can't figure out who the hell it is! He obviously has gotten in to the habit of using pet names instead of real names.

If it bothers you that bad, that he calls you the same as he calls other people. Make a fun game of making up pet names for each other. That is so annoying to those of us who do not use pet names, lol, but maybe it will make you feel better if he has his own special pet name for you. Cuz it would also suck if he called them all hon and sweety, but called you by your first name!

[MizMinx555]

Im going to have give a different opinion. You may be acting jealously, but theres not nessisarily anything wrong with that. I mean if it makes you uncomfortable, its worth at least mentioning to him and letting him explain it himself. It might turn out that it is completely platonic, just a thing. After you have a talk with him and it still really makes you uncomfortable, then I would consider asking him to stop. BUT!! Only if it truly truly truly bothers you. Dont just ask him to do it "just because," have a valid reason.