worried about friend

[-SpUd-]

ok, i got this friend she a girl, and the problem is, tht she ....... * how 2 put it * sleeps around abit, i know they say sex is gud 4 u but she does it wiv like a new guy every day, and shes my best friend and shes gr8 2 b with, but her sleepin wiv like every guys in our skool group is givin her a bad name, i stand up 4 her, put i dnt know wat 2 do now, shud i talk 2 her, or keep standin up 4 her, or just go with the crowd and say she is a bit of a slapper even tho she my friend!

[Tessie]

If you care about your friend then you shouldn't worry so much about her name and reputation as much as you should her life.

AIDS, STDS, pregnancy. These things can kill her or completely disrupt her life forever.

Educate yourself with hard facts on STDS and show it to her. Don't just tell her its bad to sleep around with every boy that looks at her but show her proof of what this action can do.

I believe there is good info on here or go to webmd. If you can't find what you are looking for let me know. I am the queen of research.

One other point. Sex is good only when practiced with the utmost safety between two people that are ready for it.

[oberon]

I'll second everything that Tessie said.

Sex should enhance who you are, not become ALL that you are.

I hope she is already taking precautions, but even if she is, she should know that there is no such thing as "safe sex" only "safer sex". *So unless this thrill of the new is worth a pregnancy, lifetime disease, or even death, she should be considering whether or not it's worth it.

Continue to be her friend by not only standing up for her, but TO her.

Take care and good luck.

[Tilston]

hey just so ur informed, i know spud and i know the girl that hes on about. (im currently sleeping with her)

spud i wudnt be worried mate she does no what shes doing and even though she dont seam like it sometimes she is pritty clever.

i have to say i no that she did have unprotected sex on one occasion (NOT WITH ME I STRESS). if u want to talk to her about it, i have no objection in being there to support you. cause i mean everyone blames me for making her a "slut" because of my pervious reputation.

lol had to edit my post 4 times!

[El Capitan]

Is it so hard to spell words correctly?

[lilly2279]

Yeah, several things that worry me about today's youth... They can't spell or speak proper english. hmmmm.

The thought of them having sex with each other at such young ages is a major worry!

Your friend is seeking approval from men through sex. I have a friend just like her (she's 30 now, though, with a 10 year old child and she's been with literally 100's of men. I think she has dated about 2 men seriously in her whole life.) Their moods depend upon how men feel about them. She'll dump you for plans if a guy offers her a night out for a couple drinks and some sex! She has no self respect. If she goes home with a guy from a bar and sleeps with him, she's always certain he's going to call back and they will live happily ever after. It's really heartbreaking if you think about it.

There is no way to just tell a friend not to do it. Of course she knows she should be using condoms. But if she thinks a guy is really hot and "clean" she's not going to use a condom. Men are very good at trying to bypass that little thing that makes them "not be able to feel anything". She is going to get pregnant or get an STD. Those are the facts. She knows this but has the whole "It won't happen to me" complex.

I don't know how to tell you to help her. Other than to be there for her. Don't join the crowd calling her a slut. She needs your support. She needs you to tell her she is worth something more than a mattress for horny teenage boys. She needs you to tell her people are talking and it's not because they are envious. The truth hurts, but be a friend and be the one person that doesn't use her for what's between her legs. She needs that now.

[demonbuttercup]

spud
you might want to talk to both your friends about going to the doctor to get checked out.
apparently tilston and your female friend are having some worries.
friends std
here's a link

[fawlen]

hey spud! i just wana say sorry for havin ago at u for posting this about me on here! i realise now that u were only doin what u thort was best an that u care for me! i guess i have done some really stupid things an well i have certainly paid the price i mean you seen the post tilston wrote about me! so yeah friends again?

[-SpUd-]

* MASSIVE SIGH OF RELIEF *, wwooohhooooo, final i " THINK " ive done something right 4 once. i hope tht things just pick up now as ive hit the bottom of the barrier.

Fawlen, im glad u see wat i was doin, i throught i was just attempting 2 b a gud friend, and u tilst ( sexual beast )