Making first moves

[disseff87]

Hey all. 1st time poster here. I'm 17 and I've been going out with my girlfriend (17 also) for about two months but have known her for about 3 years. She wants me to be more comfortable around her, I can truly say I'm really fine around her. We've made out a few times and I feel she wants to go farther but wants me to initiate it.

The problem: I don't truly know what to do. I've communicated this but I guess she is a little old-fashioned and wants me to start things first. I'm a little intimidated by her in these situations because she had a boyfriend of 2 and a half years before we went out and I know she isn't a virgin, while I am. Any comments about what I should do to start things? And truly, how do you fondle a girls breasts? I'm also afraid I'm going to hurt them. heh. Alright thanks.

[duckie]

Welcome disseff87 I can see where you may be a little intimidated by her and her having a little more sexual knowledge than what you may have. I wouldn't worry, each relationship is different for a woman and feels a little different for a woman. I'm sure you'll do just fine, follow your intincts when you're ready.
As for how to approach fondling her breasts. If you want to tease her caress her breasts lightly(sometimes guys don't know their own strengthen sometimes)with the palm of your hand moving with the curve of her breasts and as your doing this let your fingers freely move in a sorta massaging type movement remember though not too rough yet at least until you know how rough she likes it. This can be a total turn on even when she still has her bra and shirt on. If you're fondling her breast hand under her shirt and bra you can also tease her a little more by the same as above and every once in awhile teasing her nipples on at a time lightly with the tip of your index finger and so on. Listen to her she'll give signals to what she likes and doesn't like. Listen to her and don't stay in one area to long. Remember temp and tease. Also remember that her breasts probably will get very tender even to the touch about a week or so just before her period. So this may not be the time to start experimenting with that.

The main thing take it slow savor it and so will she!

[oberon]

Welcome disseff87!

First of all, relax. *Sex is suppose to be fun. *My first suggestion is going to be: Be Prepared!!! *Have condoms and a spermicidal gel handy if you think you might have sex. *If you're wondering why I start with this, then search the site using the word "pregnant". *And that does even mention STDs. *Even using a condom there is a 3% chance for pregnancy. *That is why I suggest also using a sperimicidal gel NOT a condom with spermicide on it.

Now for the FUN part. As far as breasts, guys sort of have those too. *You can experiment with what feels nice on YOUR nipples and chest area, but as was mentioned before by duckie, just remember female breast are more sensitive. *Better in the beginning to be too gentle than too rough.

Every time you have sex with a new partner, it is a learning experience. *Everyone is different. *Just because she may have had sex before doesn't make her an expert on your body. *There is a fun little game for this. *Remember "show and tell"? *Let her show you what she likes and tell you when it feels good. *Have her put her hand on top of your's and guide you. *You can do the same for her. *Guide her hand to where you like to be touch and guide her in how. *Just take it slow and learn each other's bodies. *And be honest in your communication of what is pleasurable. *I don't think either of you are mind-readers, so if something feels good let each other know. *

The most important thing is to BE PREPARE, RELAX, and HAVE FUN!! *

Take care and good luck.

[disseff87]

Thanks * *But I don't plan on the sex part for a while. lol.
I just currently have to work up the skills to initiate things. I'm not very good with fooling around because of a lack of experience. I'm workin on it though. hehe.

One more question.. any ideas for a 2 month aniversary? Should I keep it simple, take her out and give her 2 roses (for the two months we've been together?)? Sound groovy?

[oberon]

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Quote[/b] (disseff87 @ May 10 2004,21:17)]Thanks * *But I don't plan on the sex part for a while. lol.
I just currently have to work up the skills to initiate things. I'm not very good with fooling around because of a lack of experience. I'm workin on it though. hehe.

One more question.. any ideas for a 2 month aniversary? Should I keep it simple, take her out and give her 2 roses (for the two months we've been together?)? Sound groovy?

You're welcome. * *

And I'm glad you are taking it slowly.

Two month anniversary? *Your plan sounds very "groovy". * A little secret about making those special occasions special. *It's not about how much you do, it's more about what you do. *Like remembering things. *If there is something you know that she particularly likes, then do that. *Something that she may have only mentioned in passing. *(Like her favorite ice cream, or her favorite flower- yes, most women like roses, but some like other flowers too) Small things specific to her. *It shows you've been paying attention. *And who doesn't like knowing that the person they are with is REALLY listening to them?

[duckie]

I think oberon has the right idea you don't have to go all it keep it simple but special. Even a nice dinner and a walk in the park. Something special remember it's not always what you buy it's what you do! If she likes desserts do something a little different, order dessert first! Roses are always nice but, does she have a favorite flower? Good luck you'll do just fine!

[Greendale]

In all honesty, women don't care what they do as long as they are spending time with their man. Why do you think women say things like "Whatever you want to do", after you ask her what she wants to do. All my past dates had said the same thing when I asked the girls what they want to do. They'll go anywhere where their man wants to go whether it'll be a walk through town or the park, or dinner at the returaunt, the movies, bars/clubs, etc. But when you do take her somewhere make sure it something she likes, you don't want to make her bored to death. Women don't like to be bored. So make sure she's always having fun with you.

[JCrew05]

that doesnt mean they want to greendale...