Forgetting her

[Nicholaz]

How do I forget someone who I've been with for a year? I'm 17 turning 18 this friday. I dated this girl whom I trust and loved. She, however, broke up with me a while ago and went with another guy from a different school.

I can't seem to forget her. Whenever something bad happens, I always imagine how things would be if she is still here. I see her everyday in school now so that's not helping any. I think it would be a lot easier once high school ended. She's going to New York and I'm heading to Seattle. She was the person who I felt actually cared for me and could talk to. I told her things I wouldn't even tell my best friend heh.

I've dated many other girls that were fun to be with, but I lost the trust. The longest one was three weeks. If there was any way that I could do to forget her and take her out of my memories, please tell me. I need to move on but how?

[thetease13]

what I do when I want to forget about something or ignore it is I find something else to distract myself on. something creative. whether it be building something like a website, or writing a poem, or drawing something or just anything. i just distract myself with that and i find myself forgetting about whatever was bothering me.
sure, it's hard, and yea, whatever i'm trying to distract myself from is usually what's being reflected in whatever i'm creating... but not only am i distracting myself, but i'm also letting myself heal by getting out all my sadness, anger, etc in my creation.

[oberon]

It's a terrible answer, I know, but unfortunately the one that really works- time. I promise as time passes you will think about this less and less often. As thetease said, until then, the best thing you can do is try to take your mind off of it. Try to hang out with other people. The more other stuff you have going on in your life, the less time you can dwell on the past.

Take care.

[Spoon]

I've been through a similar problem recently, and there are onlly a few ways you will be able to get over her. firstly, try not to make friends with her. if your around her, and talking to her, its just gonna take even longer for the feelings to go away. It would be even better if you didnt see each other at all, but you go to the same school, so that isnt an option..

Another method, mentioned above also works well: keep yourself busy. Find things to do, then you wont be bored, doing nothing, thinking about her. also try and hang out with your closer friends as often as you can. Not to talk to them about how you feel, just to hang out with them. Your best mates always make you feel better!

The Last, best and worst method - time. Giving yourself time to get over her will difinatly work (hense it being the best) but could take along time (hense also being the worst)

there you have it, also there is a guide to getting over your ex's somewhere on the site, with a few more methods.

[Tilston]

i think spoon said it the best. but ur also wrong!

man sorry i wud post more but i gotta go out! lol look for more from me wen im back lol

[demonbuttercup]

yeah tilston but you haven't really been away from your ex long enough.
its been like 2-3 days and that definetly hasn't been enough "time".
i think you should also take on everyone else's advice.
good luck nich