Sex with the EX

[Tilston]

me and my gf been going out 8months and then we broke up. we decided to stay friends and the last week we have been flirting loads and today we had sex. i want to get back together with her and we seen each other 5 days in a row, which is gud for us lol.

i dunno if she feels the same way. how can i find out without making an arse of myself? :P

-regards TilstoN

[Rawbob]

My best advice...DON"T PUSH IT.....i'd let things jut go on for a few weeks and see if this is just a "fling" or if she genuinly begins to make it clear she wants more of a "relationship."

Don't be in such a hurry to "lock her up" ....enjoy this time!

[oberon]

Rawbob is correct. Sex with an ex is extreme easy to fall in to. You are already comfortable together.

If you are really interested in getting back together then take it slow, but you could mention to her that you really enjoyed being with her.

[Tilston]

yeah kinda a problem i did the oposite! oops and yeah we aint getting back together just yet, were f*** buddys now! :P and i suppose were seeing each other!

[demonbuttercup]

i wouldn't assume you are "seeing" eachother either. unless she says so.
she just might want you as a f*ck buddy but also date other people as well.
don't freak out if you see her out w/ someone else.

[WallyLlama]

Countless relationships have been destroyed by attempts to define them.

You're having sex, seeing each other every day and - apparently - each fairly content with that.

What's the problem?

Seriously, I'd let things simmer and see how they develop.

[sweetiez]

I'd say talk to her asbout it tell her how *you* feel.And if she doesn't feel the same way then u'll know..but if she does then maybe somethin better could happe for you.. u just need 2 talk 2 her... commuication is the key.

[Tilston]

okay so errm yeah i havent defined anythink and she has a boyfriend but we still have sex anyway... but cause i used to be with this girl i dont wanna get feelings for her again cause i dont want that and she dont so any idea on how to shagg someone and not get feelings for em.

[demonbuttercup]

thats all on you dude
the fact is you already have feelings for her.
i mean you were together for 8 months. im sure lots of caring feelings maybe even love developed over that period of time.
ive never been put in this type of situation and i don't think id want to be.
i mean theres no real way to just "turn off" the feelings like a switch. and you say she has a b/f so you are just the "other guy" who she's cheating on her b/f w/ now. who knows, when you were her b/f she might have had another guy on the side. if so, how would it make you feel? i dunno... it gets into the whole moral cheating issue which isn't the issue at hand.

you already mentioned in your first post that you wanted to get back together w/ her but its apparent she doesn't since she's already found another b/f. id just cut myself out of the whole situation. no use in you getting caught up in the drama.
just do yourself a favor and let her do her thing and you find yourself another girl who actually wants to be w/ you and be your g/f.

[Tilston]

dude your so right i need to get out the situation i aint a fan on cheating either and i just decided to not see her anymore.

last time i tryed not to see her i slept with her though, man i really gotta sort this out!