Should i tell her i'm falling in love?

[kevin83]

Ok, i'm just out of a 9 month relationship, but there's this other girl, who i really can't stop thinking about. I first realised i had feelings for her while i was with my ex, which is why i decided to break things off. This other girl likes me, and she's told a select few that she even loves me, and has done for a year or so. The things is, i think i'm starting to feel the same. I'm going to see her today, only for a little while. Should i say anything? Or keep that to myself for now?

[WallyLlama]

It's probably too late... but I'm not sure that two people can decide they love each other before they even start dating.

I'd suggest you tell her you "like her a lot" or something to that affect and suggest the two of you start "seeing each other" and starting a relationship.

If you can tell her some specific things that attract you to her, so much the better.

Wally

[kevin83]

It's not too late!

Thanks for the advice, i suppose you're right, it would be far too sudden for anythin like that.

Cheers!

Kev.

[oberon]

I'm probably too late with this, but I would suggest that you tell the girl you would enjoy spending time with her and getting to know her. WallyLlama is correct- it is nearly impossible to "fall in love" at a distance.

Spend time together and see if you both still like each other- become friends- and work from there. Those are really the best relationships.

[WallyLlama]

Just so you understand, Kevin, I meant that it might be too late in that you'd already seen her and made your decision.

I do think you're making the right one. I chose my signature line very deliberately and I think it applies to many things, including a situation like yours. We live in an age of immediate gratification - "I want it now!!" and sometimes forget that acquiring something - including a relationship - can be very gratifying and a lot of fun!

Take your time and see where things go!

[kevin83]

Well i couldn't see her cause it was raining, oops, lol. So thanks for the advice guys, and hopefully i can get to see her today. Cheers!

Kev.

[oberon]

Good Luck!!!