How to get him going.......

[hotmarriedlady]

I am 37 and have been going with a man aged 72 for over 8 months now. He is very passionate and loving, but he has limits to what he allows sexually.
Charles likes for me to massage his swollen phallus, but only on the outside of his trousers. He ejaculates and everything, but it makes a mess in his underwear. I hate to cause him such a sticky mess, and so lots of times I don't bother.
I would love to stroke his erection to completion, but he will not let me put my hand in his slacks.(well, I came close last night.) He had dozed off and I carefully unzipped his flys and slid my hand in there. His penis was soft, warm, and limp, but as I touched and rubbed it, it began to get stiff. At some point, he woke up and looked shocked. He asked me to stop and I did.
His usual remedy, when depriving me of pleasuring him is to give me pleasure in whatever way he can. He reached up my sweater and lifted my bra up, then began to tweak and pinch my long, thick nipples. He knows how excited I get from this and he pushed his hand up my skirt and I parted my legs for his magic fingertips, which gave my clitty a rapid fire massage.
He loves to watch as I reach my sexual peak, and likes to hear my breathing get faster.
After he had made me cum twice, he took my hand and guided it back INTO his trousers!! His cock was very stiff and I began stroking it. He enjoyed the stroking, but was not able to ejaculate. Finally I stopped and we both fell asleep. When we woke up a while later his dick had oozed in his trousers again.
Any advice?
Denise

[demonbuttercup]

hmm
your posts are never really a question. more like an excerpt from a adult novel or something.
im not quite sure i understand your complete situation.
your name suggests you are a married lady but you have this 72 yr old man on the side. also, in previous posts you mentioned your lesbian lover who is also older (71).
plus you mentioned you are 37 and 47? doesn't matter.
either way, so is the older man and lady a couple that you and your husband swing w/?
or is everything separate on there own? how do you have time for all of these people? lol id be worn out.

maybe this man is nervous he won't be able to perform and satisfy you. but from what you've said, he has no trouble getting erections. which is usually the biggest problem w/ older men. have you ever seen his penis? maybe he's ashamed of what you'll think it looks like or something. there could be millions of possibilities.
have you ever just came out and asked him why he'd rather you just touch him thru his clothes?
you mention at the end that he actually put your hand IN his pants so maybe slowly he is coming around to the idea. its a good start.

[oberon]

I'm with demonbuttercup ( I thought I was in a Jackie Collins novel for a moment...lol). *

Someone on here once said that kids find this uncomfortable, but at 37 (47??) you should be fine with just communicating your desires. *Talk to him and find out what the issues are. *Then try to work them out. *I would think that a 72 year old man would be dying- pardon the term- to have sex with a 37 year old woman.

[WallyLlama]

I see I'm not the only one who occasionally looks at what a poster is saying in other posts... :-) Sometimes the consistencies and INconsistencies are amazing, aren't they?

If we accept this post at face value, I'm not sure there's a problem.

Once I got beyond the youthful constant hard-on stage of my life, I discovered that it can be very satisfying to pleasure a woman so I'm not surprised that Charlie isn't (apparently) complaining that he gets you off.

It's not my personal preference to cum in my pants, but if that's what floats his boat, why not?! If the mess doesn't bother him, I say "Don't let it bother you." (If this is about laundry, you can make him do his own.) Give him the same level of pleasure he's giving you in the way that he likes and the way that works. He's 72!

Wally