Problems w/ relationship

[FlexXxKavana]

me and this girl been going out 4 about 2months and its been kind of shakey. she been (in my eyes) pushing me away and doesnt show me any affection. lately we dont talk as we use 2 and everytime we go out we cant get romantic because her friend comes along everywhere we go, she like a third wheel. this wat bothers me the most, when we go out she always grabs on 2 her friend hand and arm, i bascially feel like i'm a nobody 2 her.

today she called me adn said she wanted 2 talk. she bascaillybroke it down as "lets be friends" bullsh*t, but deep down in her i kno she doesnt. I was like the only guy 2 make her happy and laugh. she wrote me a letter like 2 weeks ago how she appericate me and she glad 2 meet me and all this other good stuff. she didnt confirm we over yet but i'm scared. not alot of girls so0o beautiful and fun 2 end up wit me. this dating and relationship is still new 2 me.

[demonbuttercup]

well i know you don't want to hear it, but if thats what she said then she probably meant it.
it would be different if her actions proved otherwise, but like you said she's been distancing herself for awhile.
about the letter she wrote, she could have meant all that as you in the friend aspect.
as you'll find out relationships often come and go, some good some bad.
just be friends w/ her, don't end things on a bad note.
who knows, later on she might realize that you were better as a boyfriend and want to get back together.
maybe just some time and space is what you guys need.

[nodoubt16pb]

hmm... it seems to me like she is not happy with herself and she may have some problems. I don't think u needa put yourself through this cuz she obviously doesn't want u and she doesn't see how great of a person you really are. She is just trying to push away a great guy and u need to be with soemoen who appreciates all ur qualities. Try talking to her more... are u being too demanding, clingy or angry for anyreason? She may be afraid to tell u how she feels just be there for her and talk and if that doesn't go anywhere then break it off cuz a relatioship is based on trust and talking and if she doesn't wanna talk then u won't be happy.
Good luck buddy

[Omega]

<span style='color:darkgreen'>Hey man, I'm going to have to agree with buttercup in this one, not that I've ever disagreed with her in anything quite yet. *You sound like you really do like this girl and I'm sure you do, but things just don't work out sometimes and you need to accept that. *You sound like a nice and caring guy so move on and find a girl who appreciates you for who you are. *Good luck.</span>

[bassman]

Mind if I put my 2 cents in? Well I too agree with buttercup you have your good ones and your bad ones. The point is there will be more. And don't quit if you have a bad one. Keep the Faith Brotha.

[WallyLlama]

I'd only add, &quot;Don't burn the bridge behind you.&quot;

Be a man, so to speak, and try to be her friend. She obviously has some interest in you and some strong feelings about you (thus the letter). For reasons we don't know, she wants to change the terms of your relationship.... or maybe the relationship was never quite what you thought it was?

I've never like the &quot;it's over&quot; phrase when it comes to relationships, because it's rarely true. Relationships change. Sometimes they grow deeper; sometimes they don't.

But when we &quot;write off&quot; someone, all we're left with are memories.

Leave the door open for opportunity.

Wally