Faking it....

[archer]

How many or have you at all ladies out there faked it while having a sexual experience to please ur lover? *please tell me bout ur experience, or how bad you lover was (that u just wanted him/her to just get it over and done with).

Call me narrow minded, but i dont see the point in it, i'd rather a lady tell me the truth of how bad i was, and i'd try and learn how to please her the best way i could.

Guys you can help out to, by posting your experience or helping other ladies know how to tell their lovers the bad news the best way possible.

thanx

[LadyOfLucidDepths]

i've faked.. HUNDREDS of times... but then again thats because..i didn't know and they didnt know how to
"please" me.. but Tyler hehe no faking there... and i've come to the conclusion with him, if i dont like it.. i tell him.. or more so.. i change it..


jamie

[Extra-Titanian]

I usually say, if you don't like it, do it yourself. In other words, if he isn't sending you to the moon and back, climb on top and do it however you want it.

[LadyOfLucidDepths]

i duno why.. people LOL think being on top is so great... its really.. no better than any other positions..but hay whatever works for you

[LittleFury]

With my ex-fiance I ahd to fake every time for about 4 months and then nearly every time for the next 2 months. HE was terribly, I mean so bad that any girl would think about turning lesbian or becoming a nun. I had to do it though, cahe would get pissed off and hurt if I didn't orgasm, but refused to do anything that I suggested to try. Then I finally told him, he got very hurt and at some point very furious. After that, you would think something would change...nope. Only this time he would not move on from touching me until I did, and still refused to do the way I asked him.
With my currect bf, I never had to. But then he very much listenes and always tries new things if I ask him to. There is never a need to fake with him.

[archer]

Have any of you been caught faking it? Or were u too good at it .

Littlefury what was it that your b/f was doing so badly?? (if u dont mind me asking)

[LadyOfLucidDepths]

AWWWWWW *HUG*, i've been through that.. but thats strange.. him not even willing to try.. yet.. i bet if he asked you to try something you would in a heart beat, BAh.. people... these days and Noper, i've never been caught im too good at it and now.. i just dont say anything but lol i made him pay for it later lol like sometimes it gets too sensitive.. so after i'v emade him cum... then like an hour later.. we've been just laying and kissing and cuddling, he will make me go :P and ill make him go aagain lol

jamie

[LittleFury]

We were both virgins, so I could undersatnd that he didn't know much, but you know, you would think that he would try and learn. Problem wasn't in that what he was doing so badly, problem was that he wasn't doing anything. I begged him to try give me oral for months, he refused. He also would not allow me to get any sex toy Pretty much he didn't try to do anything that would make me feel good. And yeah, I got so good at faking it from having so many months of practicing it, I could do a better job in it then most of the porn stars
BUt it's in the past now, so woohoo

[HngLkAMouse]

Speaking AS a guy, but not FOR all guys...

When you're a young man... and you get involved in sex... there's a certain combination of EXTREMELY strong hormones making you horny... and the ignorance of assumption. We assume when we first start-out, that what feels good to us, feels the same to you.

I know it's stupid, but it's like getting a REALLY good back rub and thinking that you're BOTH enjoying it just as much. It takes us a while to figure out (unless we're TOLD) that what feels good to us, may be doing NOTHING for her... and vice-versa... what feels good to her (at first) doesn't do it for us.

Unfortunately, this leads to a LOT of "bad" first experiences for girls. The guy get's his orgasm (heck, a light breeze could cause THAt at a young age) but the girl hasn't even gotten CLOSE to feeling the blood rushing to that area yet, and he's done.

So... yeah... ladies... when we are newbies... we need guidance.

Now... years later, if a guy hasn't figured it out yet, he's either selfish, ignorant or he hasn't been helped along by his partner(s) to understand what feels good to a woman. Either way... it IS possible to educate him (us?) to be more aware. If he loves you, he will make the effort to learn.



Peace.

[oberon]

Speaking from my somewhat unique position as one of the few gay males on this board- at least vocal ones- I never have understood women faking orgasm. *What's the point? *

I, personally, have had a few ignorant or incompetent lovers, but at least they were willing to learn. *AND they CAN be taught! *If they weren't even willing to try, I can guarantee you we weren't lovers for long. *I always try to give the person I'm with my best, so I think it only fair that they do too.

Maybe that is the trouble with some straight guys. *You ladies are too easy on them. *You could take them down a peg or two by letting them know they aren't getting the job done. *Sort of the "Learn it or Lose it" course of sex. I mean, really, how long do you think most GUYS would stay around if they weren't being satisfied?