taking a real break? from long relationshiP?

[Drifter]

Hay guys i have been with my girfriend for 3 years, afew months ago she was curious about other guys etc, and a guy ended up making a move on her and kissing her. we bad a bit of trouble but it all worked out.

ever since then, i feel i have changed its not that i hate her for what happend or anthing its quite the opposite. infact from that incident happening she made me realise, the possibilties in life and how young we both are. iam 20

its not that i dont love my girlfriend any more, i just dont enjoy spending alot of time as i used to, i know spending too much times is a bad thing. i have just finished school and started my own business and have dedicated alot of time to it.

i find i dont have the erge to see my girlfriend as much, and when i do i see her for her not for me like i used. to

we had a long chat on the phone tonight and were talking about having a break a actuall break were we seperate for a month or so and see how we go.

i just wanted your oppinions on this break game? if i were to have a break with here i would run out and go after girls. but if the oppurtunity came i would proberly take it. as after the incided iam feeling abit curious my self. this is my first and her first sexual relationship?

like i said its not i dont love her any more its just more i feel like iam drifting from her, and dont feel like iam making as much as an effort i was

sorry to rammble on guys
any advice would be great.

[?wiseman?]

It sounds like you're both wanting to test the waters outside of your current relationship and I would encourage you to do so. You're both young and have been together for a long time. Better to get it out of your system now than to regret not doing so later on.

While people talk about the "7-year itch" in a marriage, the first test actually occurs around year 3 when much of the novelty in a marriage wears off and routine settles in. You may be experiencing the same effect.

I would NOT, however, provide the same advice to a couple who was married.

[LadyOfLucidDepths]

Hmm, yea go for it..it might make you both be like "wtf was i doin... they are for me.. PFFT SILLY" kinda thing.. but yea go for it. So how has it gone so far? everything ko?


Jamie

[LadyOfLucidDepths]

exscuse me.. im such a tard.. I didn't look at the date.. LOL so... you know.. forget all that i said.. except sayyy the top lines.. lol the whole HOW has it gone so for.. just belike "well then lady.." lol


Jamie

[?wiseman?]

Lady, you really crack me up some times. I have to bang my head against the wall several times before I can make any sense out of some or your posts.

[oberon]

Me too, wiseman. Lady's post are always great once I figure out what she said.

[LadyOfLucidDepths]

LAUGHS< yea.. im goofy.. but yes.. its hard for me to well explain how im thinking.. but if i did fully LOL it would be great!!!
hehehe im glad i make someone laugh though.. MY soul purpose :P


jamie

[Drifter]

hay guys, had a talk to my g/f and yea. this is really weiard. but latley. i havnt felt as attracted to her as i ussualy were. and i think it was becuase she was quite negative about her self at the time and that kind really got to me. and i think thats the reason why i thought that she was boring and our relationship was boring..

last nite she and her friend went to a night club, it was late and i finished work late so they asked if i could pick them up, so i did as i was walking to pick them up i spoted my g/f and as stupid as this sounds i just realised how beautifull she really is, it wasnt what she was wearing but the way she held her self, and thats what then it hit me. thats what attracks me to well i guess any one.

once i saw my girlfriend happy confident, that attraction flight right back into my face and i i couldnt take my eyes off her.

i dont know if this sounds stupid to you guys

but i feel if some one is happy and is quite confident, that is a very attractive quality.

had a talk to my g/f today about how i felt etc, and yea its getting there, but i do feel much more attracted to her just for that fact that she is happeier and more confident

i still have those feelings like ohh yea theres a girl over there this and that i guess iam just a normal guy

i guess alot of relationships go through stages and this was one of ours

[LadyOfLucidDepths]

thats cool!! *thinks* maybe.. thats whats with.. me and Tyler.. i've been goin through shit.. and getting weaker and weaker.. now im getitng better and stronger again... i got some help from my mom.. MAYBE just maybe it wil make it alittl ebetter, since im more my self now
YOUR BRILLIANT! *thinks*
jamie