Tattoos

[oberon]

I know what thetease and mcpurk mean- that we should love the person and not the package- and that is true to a great extent. *I mean, if your partner were in an accident and got permanently scarred, you wouldn't love them any less. *But I think there is a different take when it is self-inflicted.

If she doesn't like this because she feels it makes you look bad, then she is just looking out for your best interest. *If the clothes you were wearing clashed, or, I don't know, made you look in some way unattractive, then you would appreciate being told by someone who cares for you....before you look bad in front of people who don't.

If, however, you choose to do it anyway (and it is YOUR body), then she must decide how she feels about it. *She may look at it as you not caring about her opinion. And if you don't care about it now over something this small, then how will you react later over something much more important?

I would have to weigh how much I value the relationship against how badly I wanted to do this thing. *Which would I be more unhappy to lose? *That is the worst case scenario. *With any luck you get to have both. *But always be prepared for the worst.

[mike]

It depends upon the depth of the relationship. I would at least get her opinion and consider it, because that's just the way I am.

Marriage though, is absolutely different. My wife belongs to me, just as I belong to her, so of course each other's opinion carries vast weight.