sex after divorce

[rhythmchic]

Hi everyone.. I need to hear from some men on this...women if you have any thoughts, would love to hear from you too.

I am recently divorced, after a year long separation from my husband of ten years. I was nineteen when I got married, and have only had sex with him. By coincidence (or fate), last month I connected over the internet with a man I have known since we both were children- I had said maybe five sentences to him over the years because I was sooo in love, I was terrified of him. It has to be STRONG chemistry, because I have fantasized about him every so often since I was nine years old, even during the good years of my marriage.
We have spoken on the phone almost every night, and he happens to live in the same city as my cousin, so I'm going to stay with her for a week for the purpose of meeting him in person. We've sent each other pictures, and we're both REALLY attracted to each other. He has never been married, and has randomly thought of me throughout his life, too!
We might see each other and hate each other, but chances are we'll probably fall head over heels. I'm super nervous, because I've only ever had sex with my ex husband, and I'm afraid I don't know very much about good sex. My husband was a virgin before me, as well, so we just practiced on each other, and we unfortunately didn't experiment too much.
Will my hormones take over and I won't have to worry too much about it, or do I need to know some things in order to make this a positive experience? Or should I discourage sex altogether, even if we both want it very badly? (I want sex very badly, but I don't want very bad sex!!!!)
I need some tips...is there something I absolutety should or shouldn't do to make this a memorable week? I would really like to blow his mind...I'm just afraid my inexperience will ruin this for me.
Any thoughts are greatly appreciated. thnx

[LadyOfLucidDepths]

ok first.. maybe start with a date? not to straight.. ****in.. like really.. :P but you should be fine. guys seem to have a way with "helping" if your not... what they would like.. they seem to just experiment.. or tell you.. but still maybe get past the meeting him before you jump to sex... sure you know him, but do you know if he is clean? do you know anything liek that about him?


Jamie

[LittleFury]

OK...hmmm, talking relatively from my own experience. Then it does get to it, let him know that you're not very experiensed. A lot of guys actually find it attractive. Ask him to be patient with you and to teach you all that he knows. And just do what feels natural. And you should be fine.

[Rawbob]

Here's my advise: ENJOY THE RIDE!

Thats right! Don't get more nervous than u already are. There's no class u can take, or book u can read that will chage the way you have learned to have sex. You just have to be honest, be yourself and communicate.

If you get to the point where u think you're going to be intimate, tell him exactly what you told us and then just go for it. Despite the fact that he may have had more partners than you has no real impact on what YOU 2 will experience. No sex is the same - every time is new and different. It's our ATTITUDE that colors how we perceive wether it was "good" or "great" or "mind blowing" or just "ok."

Remember, the BRAIN is the biggest sensual organ. If he's into you and you're into him, even masturbation will seem like an mega-orgasmic moment in your life!

ENJOY THE RIDE!

[rhythmchic]

Thank you guys....

I feel a little relieved. Everything ya'll said makes sense.. I guess I'm just so nervous....

In answering the first reply- I would never dream of just jumping right into bed with him (well, I WOULD dream, I guess...), I just meant if things went that way.....

And yes, I am aware that will will need to protect myself from possible disease. I may be inexperienced, but I'm not naive.

Anyways, thanks everyone- I am feeling a little more comfortable about the situation, and am VERY excited about meeting this guy!!!!
-rhythmchic