big age diffrence is it wrong

[tangofthepoon]

i was just wondering is there any thing wrong theres a big age diffrence between my bf and i he is 30 and im 20!

[thetease13]

age is really nothing but a number, to me atleast.
it bothers some people and it's deemed "wrong" by others, but for me, no.
some people have relationship issues with the age thing (like whoever is older wants one thing and whoever is younger wants another thing because their goals are different and whatnot).

i believe that if it doesn't bother you, then forget what other people think.
my guy is 40. *i will be 23 in 5 days. *there's a huge gap between us but it doesn't bother either of us. *it bothers some of the people i told, which is one of the reasons why i don't tell them stuff anymore. *some people can't understand that just cause it's not right for them, doesn't mean it's not right for somebody else (hence my siggy).

[demonbuttercup]

no theres nothing wrong w/ it.
if you've been able to find an older man but still have things in common thats great.
only thing i would like to point out is when you look at things way down the road.
like one of my mom's friends, her husband just passed away. she's only in her early 50s but her husband was like 75.
i know its kind of a depressing thing to think about... but you have to realize when theres a HUGE age gap its hard to be able to grow old together.
10 years isn't that bad tho.

[LadyOfLucidDepths]

Hmm i duno, i dontsee a big problem, but.. to me.. when your sayyy 18 ,19, still a teen, dating someone whos like35, or 40.. it makes you wonder.. whats wrong with the 35 year old?> if that makes sense, cause.. when your still a teen, its like your still a "babe" u know? like a child to most adults.. Bleh i duino, but i duno i have problems with someone whos 19 dating someone who is 16, or 15 or something.. to me whats weird.. and wrong..
but yea.. if you are mature adults, and love eachother. and arent.. sick :P GO FOR IT

[mike]

If everyone involved is over 18, no one can do anything to stop you. I don't see anything wrong with it, but I would be very cautious about entering a relationship with a very large age difference.

[LuvinVanessa4]

Like everybody else said, age is nothing, but a number, I'm 21 and my g/f is 17, but that doesn't matter I Love her and that's all that matters, she's unlike any other girl too, she's not like most girls these days that you see in high school that are stuck up and mean to other people. I'm glad I found her, and I don't even wanna think about if I never found her. So yea age is nothing, but a number, but in some cases like said if its like a 16 yr old dating a 40 yr then it can be a deal, since one person is a minor and the 40 yr old can be in big trouble if somethings going on between them.

John

[N-I-C-K-A-TINA]

an age diffrence doesnt really matter I think it has more of an affect on the parents if anything, my girlfriend and I are two year apart and her parents do not like that, but I guess that once you get past 18 there is no problem becuase no one will or can say much.

[thetease13]

they can't really DO anything if both are over 18 (and REALLY can't do anything if both are over 21), but they can still say stuff all they want and even try to talk you out of it. *trust me.

edit:
i guess personally, i'm just a weird case. i don't look like i'm going to be 23. i look like i'm about 15 or 16 and on rare ocassions can pass for about 13. and i think some people would much rather treat me like the 16 year old i look like instead of the 23 year old i am.
i may be young, but i'm not stupid. ya know?

[LittleFury]

Hmm, well both of you are over 18, so there is no legal issue. There is only ten years difference in your age, to me it's not really that big of the deal if you both are on the same page. I was born about a few hours too early to be exactly 10 years younger then my bf. I just turned 21. But both of us are on the same page, have same attitudes and life styles. The only thing that felt a bit wierd was that while I was still 20, and a few of us wanted to go somewhere, we had to make sure that the place was 18+. BUt other then that, I really don't see any real problems.

[Tjdude]

All right, i was going to start a new topic, but since this one is a lot related to what i was going to tell, i think i'll start here. I hope no one thinks i'm stealing the topic.

Well, some time ago i meet this girl, very pretty and nice, and we became good friends, i'm realy starting to like her, but i have a gf and she has a bf, so we are just friends. The thing is, that his bf is like 44yrs old and she is 24, and that realy bothers me for many reasons.

First, she is like the most sweetest person you'll ever meet, a very simple and innocent girl who just came to the city to work from a very small town. And he is at like his 3rd marriage, a lady's man, who is well known at the job for always getting the best looking girl that enter to work here using what ever tactic he can (he has a very important position at the plant), so he always get the a girl and then after he gets tired of her dumped her.

Now, my friend said that he loves her, but since he is married he can not give her nothing more than a relationship outside the marriage, an affair or what ever you call it , and she agree to it!!!!!! I've talked to her before, about what she would like to do in the future, and she always talked about how much she would like to have a nice house and a husband, and how much she would like to get married in white in a church, and bla bla bla, and now she is giving up all those dreams for a relationship that is going no where, because to me that guy is like a vampire, trying to take away the youth, the best years of her life, and all those dreams, for something that might never be more than an affair.

Maybe this is not about age at all, maybe is just "the guy" that i don't like, but i don't like the idea of her ending up with him, i think is a waste of time, and in this life, time is what we don't have.

Well, thanks,
any thoughts on this?