Getting Back with Ex-??

[sh_2000_ca]

Me and my ex broke up just over a month ago.
The reason we broke up was because i was so used to her being around that i called too much, and asked to hang out alot, i think she got sick of me, becuz she told me a couple of times that we can't be doing that. Another reason is cuz of our age diffrence, she was 19 and i wuz 17, and she was really worried 'bout me being in high school and her going to college. she broke up with me on My birthday Dec 14, because i was "high" and i promised her i wouldn't do that. she said it was like cheating on her. i want to treat her right, but she got this image of me being a kid in her head, and now she wont even talk to me.. i don't know how to approach this. Right now i just want to be friends, but she dont even want to talk, she talks to me like iam 10 or something...
anyways. if any of u have gotten back with ex- just tell me what happend and how u broke up, so at least i can relate to something.

[N-I-C-K-A-TINA]

ummmmm LMFAO no one can really help if you dont provide anything, what happend to make you guys break up? Did you cheat on her? did she cheat on you ? was it mutual? talk to her man let her know that you care about her (you do dont you?) cant help you much man but good luck

[Extra-Titanian]

Well, i know a girl at my school, she KEEPS getting back with her ex every time they break up. I don't know why, she's admitted to me that all the guys she's ever been with have been jerks. Yet, they still keep getting back together. I'd say it's entirely possible for you two. Just remind her of the fact that she's the one acting like a little kid by avoiding you completely. Now, if you completely disregarded her feelings and did some really messed up shit then don't bother trying, but im guessing (hoping) that you didn't.

[deelite69]

sh_2000ca, i kinda have been in the opposite of ur situation. I can relate to ur ex-gf. I was dating a guy who was a year younger (19 whereas I am 20) and it just didn't work out. He was such a sweet and nice guy... but so much so that he acted obsessive without knowing it and was just not what I was looking for in a guy. I found him to be kinda immature and in that sense it is hard for me to picture being with someone like that. Their's a reason boyfriends and girlfriends break up and just trying to get back together can just confuse you even more. But ppl do change.. but its hard when one person in the relationship wants different things and is not willing to compromise or settle.

[oberon]

**bows head and prays**
"God, please, don't let me come off sounding like an old guy.
Amen."

At the ages you both are, your lives are changing very fast. *To her, I'm sure those two years seem like two decades- which is probably why she treats you like a child. (They should even back out as you both get older.) Your job here is not to act like a child.

Since she has already made her feelings known, then the mature thing to do is respect that. *You can let her know that you would like to be her friend, but after that the ball is pretty much in her court.

By offering to be her friend, I mean just that. *Don't think to use that to "win her back". *If she makes contact, then just keep to the friend mode. *No romantic overtures or gestures. *At this point, if anything romantic is going to happen, it should be her move. *

Now I'm the last person in the world to get down on someone for drinking or getting "high", but neither, as I think you've seen firsthand, promote building interpersonal relationships. *Just something to think about.

[Mary Hough]

I recently pulled out every "trick" to hit on an ex girlfriend. But she is made of sterner stuff and somehow, even though I will remain eternally frustrated, I know it was for the best. Maybe it was more the challenge that enticed me. But in the end her heart was elsewhere, and then there is really nothing to do about it. And I think that is the final line. If one half of an ex-relationship is newly committed to another, then there is no going back.
She did tell me, however, that if she hadn't been committed, then it might have been my lucky week!
I'll stay frustrated, I hope you can go forward with a new love.