i need advice

[IceSport]

about a week ago me and my girlfriend have had unprotected sex... a few days later she knew she was pregnent... we talked for a while about it, and both decited to get an abortion because neither of us are ready for a kid... to me she is my life and the only one i truly love... today while talking to one of here friends... this is a long distance relation ship btw... we're about an hour away... he confesed that him and my girlfriend went out for a few months... he swears that she told them that we broke up... we've been going out for about 4 months... and i guess they went out for about 2 of thouse months... today she told me that she loves me and could never survive if i left her... and i don't want to leave her... because i love her too much... and am willing to work it out... but now she's saying she doesn't know how she feels about me and if her love is real or not.. i need some advice on what to do... this is my first relation ship... and i want it to be my only one... i haven't had a chance to talk to her face to face... i just don't know what to do... even though she has cheated on me for such a long time... she stoped it about a month ago... i still want to be with her... how do i know if she realy does love me or if i'm just another guy to her? please help me... i need advice on what to do... and i don't want to loose her...
thank you
IceSport

[girl12]

i think that u should talk to her face to face. no one else can tell if she really loves u or not. only her. u need to talk to her and tell her how u feel. and u cant MAKE a relationship be the only one, usually it just kinda happens. if she does break up with u (hypothetically speaking) then dont think that it is the end of the world. there are other ones out there. but u need to talk to her and tell her how u feel, no one else can tell u if she really loves u or not.

best wishes, good luck! hope i helped!

[?wiseman?]

First and foremost IceSport, is that you have to be by her side thought this intensely emmotional time. You toss out the abortion decision with a cavalier attitude, then start with the whoa is me selfishness. Help her get through her decision to abort as it is no doubt a difficult physical and emotional impact on your girlfriend, in which you have played a large part. Then, figure out where the relationship can or will go.

[LadyOfLucidDepths]

I duno, i wouldn't stick around, if she can "cheat" on you for that long.. who's to say that was even your child aswell? but that isnt really the point, what im saying is if she can cheat on you that long.. do you really want that around?
i know i sure wouldn't

Jamie