Broke Up with Me... Want her back.

[sh_2000_ca]

allright.. On November 14th i started dating a girl, Just a bit older then me.. she was 19 and iam 17. We had some problems in the beggning, but we tried to work them out, problems like other guys that like her calling her cell, and she used to answer it right infornt of me and talk to them for like 30 mins, we had a discussion and that was all good.. and then we had another discussion about her not going out drinking with other guys that like her.. she agreed not to do this... this past sunday, she exploded at work and told me that i supress her, just when i was about to tell her that i have changed my ways to be with her.. i was kinda depressed and went and smoked some , and reached for da skys,.. anyways, she said that she left me cuz, i promised her i wouldnt smoke and i did. i stopped that.. we still talk, but she wants her space, like be her way and flirt with other guys.. I dont know is there a way to get her back, cuz i still love her, she tells me that she is confused and doesnt know what she wants.. she has tied connections with her ex again. i keep telling her i love her everyday on the phone.. should i stop calling her, and just be friends or should we still hang out.... and how can i get her to like me more then a friend again...

any feedback would be appreciated..

[?wiseman?]

sh_2000_ca, you've been seeing this lady for only 5-weeks as if this was a long-term relationship. Most month-long romances are all roses and happiness. Yours is already fraught with problems. I would suggest that this is not going to blossum into anything and that you should go ahead and walk away. Drop the drugs. Get yourself together and give her the space she wants. This one is not meant to be, in my opinion.

[oberon]

I have to agree with wiseman; stay friends, if you like, but otherwise move on.

[PennywiseEvilClown666]

Ok, here's my take on this subject. Maybe i can help because i've been there and done that. I had an instance like this when i was with a girl years ago. We were together for about a year and a half. I kept beggin her to quit smoking, and she said she did but was lying to me the whole time. Also, towards the end of the relationship it got to where if other guys were around i was none existant. An example is that she danced with another dude at my own birthday party. That was the drizzlin shits.
Needless to say she dumped me a few weeks later, and was humping some other dude with a day after that. I stewed over her for years, and then i realized that i was looking at things the wrong way. Here's what i mean.
She was that way, because that is just her. Those were the things that she wanted to do as a person. This is the same situation with your girl. That's what she chooses to do, and you shouldn't try to change that. You yourself shouldn't have to change someone else, they will change if they want to be with you. This applies both ways here. Basically, if you can't except another person for what they are and do and try to change that, 99% of the time it wont work. Besides, if she was talking to other guys on the phone all the time and going out with other guys..drinking nonetheless cause we all know what happens when you're drunk...then it was bad news to start with.
Also, if she says she doesn't know what she wants that's bad news too. Because it usually means that she does know what she wants, it ain't you, and she can't tell you that. That's not always the case, but i'd bet on it. So my advice for you is to do this: drop her all together. It's really hard to remain friends with someone that you have feelings for in that way after they shoot you down. If you feel you can accept her being happy without you and with someone else, then you're definitely a man! Then, i could see a friendship maybe working out. If not, then just forget her all together. Dont' call her or anything. Go out and look for someone better than her because trust me she's out there!!! Good luck dude!