It's that time of the year again for HS students!

[Nicholas]

Hm. If anyone remember, I dated this one female athlete for over a year and finally broke up with her over the summer. We'll call her Suki. (Wiseman might, he replied to all my posts =p) It was hard letting her go, but we knew it was only the right thing to do. For the past few months, I've dated a lot of girls; but never found anyone quite like her.

Last week, I asked Suki if she wanted to hangout. We watched a movie, and we made out like any boyfriend/girlfriend would. She told me she had a lot of fun and wants to do this again.

Well I asked her to the dance, and found out she was going with someone else already. I was told that she asked this guy to the dance, so I figured she must like him or else she wouldn't have asked him.

I'm wondering, before I ask her this question, where do I stand in this situation? Am I just someone she's comfortable being close to, but has no attraction, or should I believe there is a chance to get back with her again?

[LittleFury]

Time will tell. It could be that she asked that guy to the dance because she felt confortable around him and he was a good friend of hers. Her asking him does not mean that she likes him, it does mean that she thinks she'll have a good time with a guy.
On the other issue, it's too early to tell. It could be a situation of ex making out just cause you've done it before and feel confortable. Or it could be that she still likes you in that way and wants another chance with you. Really, only time and talking to her will tell. Good luck

[nodoubt16pb]

Yeah sure time will tell but in the meantime she is like totally disrespecting you. Making out with you and then going to a dance with some of guy is total disrespect ( unless he is a friend of hers .. they never kissed... and she promised him ) only at that time should you feel ok.
If you don't know or not sure of where you stand ask her. You have every right to after all you did make out with her.

[?wiseman?]

Nicholas, I do indeed remember, and because I'm of the belief that no one has the right to keep others from their dreams. Please, remember that I'm some 26 years from the trials and tribulations of teenage years, so I'm going to respond only on my own experiences that, oh so many years ago. To many of you, I'm a dinosaur but, while the rules of dating have changed immensely, I don't really think the fundamentals have changed all that much.

"Suki," clearly cares for you on some level. I wouldn't put too much stock in the fact that you and she had a nice evening together and then she said she was going to the dance with someone else. It's very possible that she was invited to the dance or she invited the other guy to the dance before you and she had your evening together. If that's the case, it would be rude and insenstitive for her to cancel with the other guy and go with you. If you were in his shoes, you'd be very hurt if she withdrew the dance invitation and went with someone else. This would indicate to me that she's a good person.

I think you're in a good spot to be honest with you. It would appear that you've given her the space she wanted and she's realized that you're someone special. But it is too early to tell if anything will come from it, so stay the course and be there for her when she needs you. As I think I said (at my age I don't have the time to read back thru prior posts )you need to give her the space she needs to decide where she wants to go.

As a parent, I'm impressed with the way that you've put this young lady's interests and aspirations first. And, as a parent, I don't relish the day that my 13-year old makes "out like any boyfriend/girlfriend would. She told me she had a lot of fun and wants to do this again." You sound like the kind of kid who I could talk "with," not "too" about what you're going through.

Let it play out Nicholas, don't push and continue to be there for this young lady in whatever manner she needs you.

In the language of my time, Be cool!

I don't spend as much time on the forum as I used to, so if any of you youngsters want one parent's opinion on anything at all, don't hesitate to PM me. With a 13-yr old, I'm gonna have to deal with your problems, one way or the other, in the not too distant future, so I'd like to understand what you would "really" like to talk to your parents about, and what keeps you from doing so.