Shes not a virgin, I am

[Shav0]

We have been going out for 3 months and she doesnt care that im a virgin but shes not and i have always pictured haveing sex my first time with a girl whos a virgin .dont get me wrong we love each other to death but im very confused what shood i do ?

[sweetiez]

If you dont feel u should/want to have sex with someone that already have had sex then dont. if it doesn't feel right then maybe it is not ment to happen.U dont want to regret something after it has happen.Just think it over hard. and i hope the best for you :D

[Shav0]

Well i still feel wierd that she isnt a virgin but what i think thats makin confused the most is when i first started goin out with her my friend said his brother liked her (hes in jail for a while now though) but hes like 23 and she is 17 and at the time 16 ,she says noting happened and she told me to belive her and i want to but my friends brother said that they did a lot more .And i mean i love and i dont wanna start any crap with her . cuz he been known to talk some shit , but hes also like my older brother and he knows its bothering me so i dont know if hes lieing or shes lieing

[LadyOfLucidDepths]

Hmm, well.. all i gott say is.. it happend then.. if it did.. or not, no one knows but the 2 of them.. but if you feel weird being with her.. because shes not a virgin.. why are you with her? if you aren't comfortable with who she is? like im sure you love her, but that is her. she isn't a virgin.. and, to her.. ther eis nothing wrong with you being a virgin.. cause to most girls there isnt.. because its all a matter of choice.. she just maybe hopes you could accept the ones she has made, as well as the ones you have? and i duno.. if she has told you nothing has happened.. and if you love her.. and she loves you, then whatever :P TRUST and COMMUNICATION are the keys :P hell to life..
my 2 cents

Jamie

[Shav0]

Thanks i havent really thought of how she felt and she did ask me out maby i shood quit being stubern she's the best thing thats ever happened to me , and when im with her the virginity thing doesnt even come to mind ,only when im by myself with noting on my mind . Im ganna go for it and maby the anixity well disapear ...

[archer]

GO FOR IT BABY!!

[LadyOfLucidDepths]

Hmm well from what i've learned in "reading" people *psychic reading* if your wonderin... umm i've learned you gotta go with your gut and heart before your mind.. cause it just.. messes it up.

Jamie

[Shav0]

ok this is what happened :last night i was talking to her on the phone and it brought up the subject of being mean and she said she likes it in the bedroom and i said so u like it ruff ,she replies i dont know i have only done it 4 times .She had never told me this before so it really upset me so i told her that wasn't cool and said i had to go and hung up on her . She calls me back like 5 mins later saying she was sorry she didnt mean to hurt me and she loves me ,So i told her what i have been stressin over.I said i have always pictured myself having sex for the first time with someone i really loved and with a girl who hasn't had sex ether,I told her that i really loved her and i wanted that experience to be special and i dont think it can be special for her seeing as she has had sex four times already.and i just sat there for at least 5 mins compleat silince and she told me her phone was dieing and i still sat there tell it died.

I seen her on campus today she totaly blew me off as so did i .so i waited tell the bell then waited for her by her class and she told me that she cried after she got off the phone with me and she hasnt cried even at her grandfathers funeral 2 years ago ,so it kinda brought a tear to my eye and i told her i loved her and im not ganna forget what she said but im ganna try to see past it becuase she is the best thing thats ever happened to me

I cryed last night and i cant remember the last time i cried but it made me think about how i have been closing my hart trying to make her look innocent when she is really not and nether am i .So when she comes over tomorrow im just ganna go with the gut instinct or rather with the flow of things becuase i know now shes cood be the right one .

[LadyOfLucidDepths]

Not only that, if you didn't know that about her.. wouldit change how you feel about her or how much you love her? i duno it shouldn't.. i know it can be kinda upsetting.. butyou gotta just try and look past, im glad your gonna try that.. because well... whyloose someone over something... so simple as that? when... you could of found your other half hmm? now thats not worth it.. loosin that.. over something so silly.and.. i bet alot of people want to be with a "virgin" but think of it this way.. it will be fun for you... and her. also 4 times, hun it doesn't reall ymake a difference. lol you basically are newbies :P virgins.. whatever :P
lots a love, and good luck. things will be fine., also don't hold her to something hse has already done.. you love her, she loves you :P SILLY SILLY

Jamie

[Shav0]

Thanks so much that makes a lot of since.She is coming over tomorrow and if i feel the same as i do now over what you said ..then well see what happens but thanks that really put me in place

Derrick