relationships

[curious1]

Firstly i would just like to say...that i think this site is great. Although this is my first post, i have been reading posts for ever now.
I'm currently attending highschool and i now have a problem and though that you guys might be able to help.

I started going out with this girl a week and a bit ago....but we were friends b4 that. I'm really into her and shes into me..one problem not to long ago she got out of a relationship which lasted over a year. The point is...she constantly is bothered by the fact that this othe guy cant let go..she has clearly told him that she doen'st want him n e more...and he continues to remind her of their past...and this makes her feel bad, the fact that shes hurting him. I am aware that i cant do anything about waht they had. I respect what they had...but they dont have it anymore...i'm not afraid to lose her because i feel like he isn't n e competition. but it bothers me to see he bothered over this...and we recently talked about this and it made me think of our relationship and wehre its going...i'm jsut really confused and not sure wat to do/think

[theharmlesssin]

i went through the same thing! my gf went out with this guy for like a year.. then the first day of school i sal her and i was like WOW.. and 4 days later she has dumped him and is going out with me. so her and him went round for awhile. its ok.. just let her know how you feel.. let her know that if she has any feelings still for this guy, that you dont want to be drug along for an emotional rollercoaster if she is just going to lead you on .. only to dump you and go back in that other guys arms.. that is what i did.. and me and my gf have been dating for a year and 3 months now

[curious1]

I;ve already told her....that i dont want her to go out wiht me so she doens't hurt me. I told her i dont need that, and if she has feelings for gim she shuld make up her mind b4 me and her get serious...thanx man..

[LadyOfLucidDepths]

sometimes we dont even really care about the other person, well ok we care.. but if we have dumped them, usally its for a reason, and we chose somene else for a reason... and most of us always remember that.. well i do.. and if a uy wants me back... after I"VE dumped them...i think.. "thats nice" and i know it hurts the other person im with if there is that tension... but.. i duno the way i am i would always talk to the person im seeing and tell them how i feel.