How badly did I screw up?

[GUY_420]

It's pretty much over with, I wish for this thread to be deleted.

[archer]

Good move : coming out with your feelings, and being frank with it!! having the guts to be true to your feelings!

Bad movie : apologising and saying you were 'kidding'!!!! You could have at least waited for a response from her (she could have been feeling the same way). That not only says your immature, but it would hurt her greatly if your judgement (that she liked you as well) was correct.

This will definitely be hard for her to understand. but like i said coming out wif your feelings and being frank is the way to go instead of hiding and pretending it was a joke. your lying to yourself and her! this is point where you can come out clean with your story, and make it convincing as well wen you tell her (and definietly dont do it through a letter or she may be reminded of wat you just did)

dont be terrified, scared, there is only 1 thing to do see this as an oppurtunity to redeem yourself and say a big sorry to this poor girl. every1 makes mistakes, but at least you can correct this one!

be a gentleman and make this right, and i think inside you know how to! go on get ur feelings out there! you can do it mate!

as for being shy around women, you must have confidence in yourself, love the way you are, and women like a guy who has confidence in himself (not being big headed but, steady). just relax and most importantly have fun. im not sure why you are scared because you say in previous relationships they have been great. maybe there is something you arent telling us, or there is something hidden!

anyhow good luck

[GUY_420]

Well, the whole story is that she told me she was into this other guy so I pretty assumed I didn't have a chance. It's been a month and we've been progressively getting closer but like I said, I am a horrible judge of female communication. The guy who she likes (also I'd consider a friend) has shown no interest and is already in a relationship. The class I'm in with this girl ends soon and I figured I'd go for broke and tell her how I felt. The problem this girl is so beautiful and I'm so into her that I was feeling guilty that I might have hurt her or jaded her, thus the apology. I'll see her tomorrow but I'll probably just ignore her or pretend it didn't happen. I'll probably just play it by ear, and then come here begging for advice on how to dig out of this hole tomorrow.

Thanks for the solid advice by the way *

[archer]

i really dont c how you could hurt her by sayin that you really like her and htat you find her 'beautiful'...the only way you could have hurt her is wat you have just done!

Trust me dont ignore this whole thing..COME CLEAN!!! dont screw this up even more by not talking to her...she'll think that she just lost a friend as well..and itll make things a lot more complicated, harder for communication, weird feelings etc.

wat did she say bout the letter you wrote her?

[GUY_420]

I'll see her tomorrow and hopefully I'll get the courage to talk to her.

In the follow up letter I basically said it was the stupidest everything I had ever done, I wasn't sure if I was kidding or not, etc. etc. etc. I freaked out though because when she was reading the first note she looked completely upset or not happy. I dunno, I think I screwed myself either way but oh well... live and learn. Damn...

I'll let you know what happens tomorrow.

[GUY_420]

I saw her today and we said maybe four or five sentences to each other. There is some discomfort there. However, I guess it's good she's still trying to talk to me. I think I push her into the hands of my friend though. I hate telephones with a passion and have probably made less than a dozen phones calls in my whole life, but I'm going to try to call her tonight. I am about to chalk it up to my being stupid and let it go soon though. Damn, if only this girl wasn't so beautiful and perfect, I'd be sane right now.

Edit: I just called her and I couldn't even form sentences. I think I destroyed any chance of a relationship plus putting an iceberg in the path of what could have been a good friendship. I'm pretty sure she's seeing someone else, and there's a lot of weirdness now. I have given up.