Paranoid and hurt

[archer]

hi, hope im clear in wat i say, and i would love everyones advice or any thoughts , blunt or long. i'd appreciate all of it!!

Ive been going out with my g/f for just over 10 months, im 18 and she's 17. She's my first everything and i am hers...and i love her like crazy. The thing is she never ever calls me or asks me to go out with her, the embarrasing thing is her mum has asked me out to places with my g/f more than she has. She is only in school so she has at least time on the weekends. every time its always me chasing her. Does she not want me?? However everytime im with her it (alone) feels so bliss and i have the greatest time, but if there is a friend there or something...its like im not even there, she doesnt even pay a bit of attention to me. she doesnt like public guestures of affection....however her friends tell me , and wat my g/f tells me she seems (in my eyes) to be so flirty with a good guy friend of hers, and they seem to be all over each other. she says she loves me, would never cheat on me and wouldnt ever consider goin out wif her best guy friend. recently at her party she didnt even give me any attention at all, not even small things, and each time i walked into a room with them two, they seem to just look at each other and part as if they were uncomfortable around me cos they couldnt be wat they are like at school (all over each other and flirty), but i do give her all the freedom she wants and i dont mind if she has close guy friends, which she does.

am i like paranoid?? or should i do something about it. i have talked and confronted her a number of times, yet she just gets defensive and tells me nothing is happening. with ph calls or askin me out, she just says its not like her to do that, am i asking for too much attention wen i only can see her like once or twice a week?

it also sometimes pisses me off that she could say all these nice things...but doesnt do anything...its the actions that count isnt it??

hope people reply ...and thanx in advance for any advice!

[littlegurl]

Maybe she is just really really nervous of what you think of her. Therefor, she can't be herself around you, and gets nervous b/c she doesn't want to risk flirting and screwing it up. She might be more flirty with her guy friends just because she's not in a relationship with them and doesn't have to worry/care waht she does with them. Or maybe I'm totally wrong but either way, I think you should tell her how it's bugging you and how it's affecting your relationship with eachother.

[archer]

no she can be herself but only wen its just me and her, but once someone shows up in the picture (especially her best guy friend) they get all threatened by my company or presence there. *if she's not in a relationshiop with them but me, shouldnt she act normal, or in a way that wouldnt offend me or give the guy the wrong impression? because it seems like he's always coming back for more!

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[sweetiez]

I honestly think you should talk to her personally!Ask her whats up and ask why she asks so different when people are around is there a reason why she does this? of course there is.. u need to know NOW. maybe she isn't everything you think she is. sound slike she could be hiding something from you.. i hope the best for you..and if u need help at all.. and want to IM me go for it its on my profile i hope evrything turns out great just commmuate with her and tell her how you feel about everything just let it out. Remember a relationship will never work if ur not TOTALLY honest.. keep that in mind!