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[littlegurl]

Ok, here's my problem. I went out with a guy for a few months, and at the time I had alot of stresses to deal with, and wasn't really into the whole relationship. Well, we broke up but now that I think of it, he was a really good boyfriend for putting up with my problems, and I really want him back. The problem is I doubt he is willing to give it another chance. I've tried confronting him but it seems that he's avoiding me. Should I just get over him already?

[Lonely_Surfer]

Well just tell him how you feel and maybe give him a little time to think it over.
I know when i have been in positions like the guy you are talking about and wish i had gone out with her again later but i never did cause i was to proud sorta thing but yeah thats all the advice i can give hope it helps.

[?wiseman?]

littlegurl, pick him up a couple of pink roses and write a short card telling him that you would like to meet with him to talk. Leave it at his home or have it delivered by a good friend. I know it sounds hokey, but I think it would be received as a nice gesture.

[deroxor]

alright if you were a big part of his life then im sure he would want you back. dont wait too long tho he might get cozy being single again tho... i know i am. any ways just ask him... you sound like your in the same position as my ex was. if he says yes GREAT if he says no then just move on... i think the harm has alrdy been done, since hes avoiding u just go straight out and talk to him. hope that helps.


oh and another thing how long has it been since u broke up??

[HngLkAMouse]

littlegurl...

This may not be what you want to hear, but my advice is to move-on... assuming that you're both young (under 18). Speaking as a guy... but not speaking for ALL guys, I think at THAT age range, a boy does not want to take-on emotional challenges if he has other options for dating. In other words... he might (operative word being MIGHT, not WILL) be leary of getting back together after enduring difficult times with you, only to have you end the relationship. So from HIS point of view, why would he want to go through that again...? At a young age, we tend to travel the path of least resistance.

It's not a reflection on you or any other girl... NOR is this true for EVERY boy... I'm just trying to give a worst-case scenario as to why he may be hesitant to get back together.

ON THE OTHER HAND ---

I do not know either of you in any way, shape or form... and he might be more than happy to try again. The only way to know for sure is for you to sit with him and tell him what you feel.

Tell him that you feel bad for mistaking the problems you were going through with problems between you two, let him know that you appreciate how he was there for you, acknowledge that you were wrong for ending the relationship (but only if you TRULY feel it is true) and would like to reestablish the relationship.

No matter HOW it goes... I hope things in-general are going better for you, and I hope things work-out for you and your relationship.