Should i break up

[Lonely_Surfer]

This is my first post so i'm sorry if i am a bit unclear.

Any way i have been going out with my g/f for 4 months she's the first girl i've gone out with that i ever cared for an i would even go as far to say that i love her *an it makes me feel so good when i'm with her but the problem is she is always so busy i know she has to study so she can get good grades and all and i want her to do really well except she works, on top of that she is in plays for the local theatre company aswell so i only get to see her like 2 times a week if i'm lucky.

So most the time i'm not sure if she cares or even wants me any more, so i talked to her about it and she said she still wants to go out an that she cares about me alot so i'm like yay sorta thing really relieved she still wanted me but on her birthday just the other day i bought her a big bunch of roses and really nice chocolates and she said she loved me and all but she didn't even seem to care i put lots of effort into making her feel good and pamper her so i was really dissapointed, so i don't know what to do i have been thinking about dumping her so much lately cause all she causes me is pain, confusion i have even started to feel like not seeing her anymore.

Hope someone can help cause i really love her and she says she does to but it dosn't feel like it any more or is it me not making her feel good do u ppl think she dosn't want me any more or just busy.

would appreciate it if some one could share their view on the situation, sorry if what i'm saying isn't clear i'm not very good at expressing my self.

thanks

[Tjdude]

this remind me of some other post:
kinda similar post here

my advice is that you should talk to her again and see what's going on, if she doesn't make a good efort to improve the relationship, you are wasting your time. Yeah, maybe is a good thing that she is doing all those wonderfull things to improve herself, but that doesn't help you as a couple.

That doesn't mean she is the bad one, i mean you have to put yourself on her shoes, maybe she really doesn't have that much time, so maybe u can try to do things so u can spend more time together, like going to visit her at lunch time at work, or spend time with her at the theatre, but you just can't doit alone, so talk to her and see what u can do.

C ya

[hanksnow]

You need a time committment from her. You have a need to see her more. Move on if she can't make that committment to you.

[archer]

trust ur instincts, if it doesnt feel right its probably not right. if she cant put ur relationship first above all things, then its not worth it. remember words arent everything if she says she cares about you, it really might not be the case. its the actions that count.

[Rawbob]

I totally disagree with giving here any kind of ultimatum. You don't say how old you are, so it's tough to get a feel for you and her as far as "life experience."

But, i'm assuming that you're at least both 16 (becase of work). Now, the fact that she wants to get good grades and has that as a priority is INCREDIBLE!

Ok, so she's involved in theatre, i'm sure that brings her joy. She is working to balance school, a hobby (theater) and you....well....you have to decide if your love for her is enough to understand the priorties she's set in life.

The fact that she is "busy" doens't mean she dosne't care for you...in fact, it sounds like she keeps teling you that she DOES want to see you as often as she can..and if, RIGHT NOW, thats only 2 days...then you have to decide for yourself.

don't put this on HER...this is YOUR decision!

personally, i think you have a great girlfriend...and you should just take it a aday at a time! ENJOY! don't push!

[Lonely_Surfer]

Well i'm 18 and she is 16, thanks for your opinions but i decided i am just being imature as usual and probably a bit to serious aswell.
thanks anyway