Helping her get over him

[AnotherShyGuy]

Hello everyone, its been a while. *Oh well, not one to waste words here we go right into the problem.

I have liked this girl for about a year now. *She is really nice etc etc etc.. but from about Jan (03) to Aug (03) she was going out with this guy. *Fine, whatever, I did my thing she did hers. *Well, he went off to college and they 'broke up' and what not. *But she is still very attached to him. *We have talked a lot, and now we hang out all the time and do just about everything people do when they are going out, but we are not "officially" going out. *She still isnt over her old boyfriend, and although she has said she likes me she still likes him more. *He has basically thrown her heart all over the place. *He has done many things, that if most guys did it the girl would never talk to them again, and yet she still feels this attachment to him.

What should I do? I have told her its ok, and that I will wait until she is over him and everything.. But it is hard because she is always so sad about not having him. *I have tryed everything to try and help her, I am her shoulder to lean on, I am her punching bag to beat up (not literally)... I have done everything I can, but to no avail. *

As I said, I am more then willing to wait, it is just that I need advice on how to help her get over him faster, not for myself but for her. *She is starting to get extremley depressed about it... and that is not a good thing. *I am hoping someone can tell me something although I am not expecting it.. Oh well... Thank you all for reading this endless babble.. If you have any questions you can post them here and I will reply. *Thanks again.....

[sexykitty]

Unfortunately, I don't think there is anything you can do to help her get over him. Sometimes it takes people a long time to finally let go. If you have deep feelings for her I would consider spending less time with her to save yourself. If she jumps into another relationship too quickly she will not fully get over him. Sucks, but all you can do is give her time and space.

[hanksnow]

Man oh man. Reading this post was like reliving my college years. I knew quite a few women who behaved like this at college. They left the boyfriend back home with half broken promises of fidelity or pacts to date others but still love one another forever, etc. What an annoying pain in the ass it was to deal with them!

Don't be so foolish as to get involved with this woman until she stops mooning over the last guy. It's not worth it!