Relationship Advice - long haul

[ThatOtherGuy]

Well, I've managed to fall in love with a 16 year old girl, and she has let me know that she likes me as well. It wasn't something I was looking for. I went and did some volunteer work for a parent to get myself off my computer and doing something. She just kinda blindsided me



She is *very good looking, but that's not what caught me. I founder her to be both mature and intelligent. Although she was surprised when I called her cute, and then beautiful. I was surprised she didn't feel that way. But aside from that, when I'm talking to her I feel like I'm talking to an equal. This is very different from most of the other girls I've known who are my age or older... and forget the younger ones. She drew me in like a magnet.

Mature enough to make her position clear as well. She admitted she was shy and nervous. She didn't wan't to move quickly and I promised to not push her ^^;;. Truth is I wouldn't push her anyways as I dont want to cause her to have to worry about pregnancy and such. And we both understand that whatever happens, it would stay that way for awhile.... That doesnt mean she doesn't get me going most of the time X_x. (I dont think she realizes just how much affect she has over me ^^;

Additionally, thanks to my sister, her parents know all about this. They have declared that while they like me and all, I'm only good as a friend due to my age. She isn't one to go against her parents. No huge arguements there.... although I'll have to talk to them eventually if they hold to that opinion (I do NOT look forward to that day.) But in truth I respect her parents as well. I talked to her right after and we decided to remain as close friends from some time, with a strong chance for much more when she was older.

I do have a job, a busy one, and she has school. So for the most part we occasionally get to talk online. Then we see each other on weekends. And even then we are never really alone. Always someone in the next room etc. I have not challenged the 'unintentional supervisor' thing, and have no desire too at this stage anyways.

What I want to ask, is, considering the various complications. What can I do for her to make her feel special. I have very little experience in this area in myself. I've been alot more reserved and dependable than I have been a partier or such. Heck, I've only been drunk once, and in no rush to be that way again. And I've never touched anything worse than that.

Basically, what I want is to treat her right without going off-bounds... just dont tell me to give up on her cause I wont ^^;;. I have no doubts about my ability to be dependable and patient, but I certainly dont want to make her bored!

[hanksnow]

Print out what you wrote here and give it to her. It seems heartfelt. (Also- most women do like flowers and candy.)

If you do love her, stay away from one-on-one situations for 2 more years. She's not of legal age for anything more than a frienship.

[ThatOtherGuy]

Well, she knows all this, I'm pretty open and talkative ^^;;.

As I pointed out the chances of us going all the way are pretty damn slim for quite some time anyways.

As for the age thing. I'm Canadian, and this is one of the things I'm not that proud of in Canada... go here for more info

http://www.c-a-s-e.net/Age%20of%20Consent.htm

[demonbuttercup]

whoah
you guys can have sex w/ girls as young as 14!!
i knew you guys were liberal but not THAT liberal.

[Tjdude]

wow, that link about Canadian Age of Consent was a big surprise for me * . I didn't knew anything about it.
In any case i think you wait some time before making a big move on her. Maybe you find her mature and intelligent but the thing is she is not the one that is supposed to be (good thing that she is). YOU dude are the one who should be mature and intelligent. And believe me, falling in love with a teenage girl is not a great way to show how mature you are . Sorry man, i don't mean to be rude. But it is pretty common for younger *girls to fall in love with the older guys, because they can easily mistake feelings of admiration for love, and i'm shure you know, that right now she must be in the age of the hormon roller coaster, things that she like today she might not like tomorrow, just make sure that when the ride is over your are both in the same seat.

Aside from that, maybe you should try to do those things that you didn't do when you were 16 *(not "those things" ), what ever that comes to your mind, like a road trip to that concert out of state, go camping, or plan what ever activity that can make you guys know each other better. Well, C ya.

[LadyOfLucidDepths]

Strange, im Canadian.. and i've always known it to be.. well if your 18.. you can date a 16 yr old.. any younger and u can get charged. i think there is like a age gap.. thats "ok" like if someones 19.. you can be16-17.. or something.. but once.. its older i think there is a rule against that but i duno thats what i've alwys known

[sweetiez]

Thats really sweet that u want to make her as happy as you can.U sound like a good guy.Which is good.I would sy take her out 2 a nice resturant get flowers for her candys teddy bears girls like that sort of thing.Even just telling her how you feel girls LOVE that.=)

[sweetiez]

omg i just read that age thing..omg honestly thats really sick!.I cant even believe that!Honestly. Im from America.. and wow that is just plain out sick sorry. but at least you know its not illegal i guess heh. yeah wow lol

[Finnish Guy]

If I remember correctly 14yr old is legal in Japan too.

I'm almost 26 and dating a 19 yr old... I know it's not the same thing. She makes me feel like I'm 18 again and I love it (and her) so much.