Stuck at 2nd

[knar]

HI im 14 and i have been dating a girl for 8 months and i have spent more time with her than i have at my house. After we were dating for about 2 weeks i got 2 first base, 3 weeks after that i got to second, not like 6 1/2 months later im still at second..... it like shes afraid, can anyone help!!!

[Admiral_Ace]

Ok knar-

The first thing you've got to understand is that moving "up" the bases isn't exactly set on a schedule that can be followed. I mean for my g/f and I-we dated for nearly five months before I made it to 2nd base, then 3 months later 3rd, then it took less than a month more for us to reach the proverbial "home base."

Communication is also a big key-if the two of you aren't comfortable talking about something then you shouldn't be doing it at all. My g/f and I ALWAYS talked about anything that we'd want to do/try beforehand, then we were both comfortable when we actually did it. Much for more gratifying if you both want and enjoy what you're going to do-if she's scared about something you shouldn't push her-that will make things more difficult in the long run and hurt feelings will probably arise. If you really care for this girl you will only do things she is comfortable doing-and you should never make her feel like she owes it to you or she has to if she really loves you. Those are bad situations for both parties.

Talk to her! Good luck!

[sexykitty]

If you are 14, how old is your g/f?

If she is your age or younger I am not surprised that she doesn't want to move on to more sex acts. She's young, give her time and space, and respect her decisions.

[norcalgrom]

First off you gotta respect the girl. I'm not sure what you mean exactly by 2nd 3rd base etc. but from all the definitions I've heard it's not unusual for a 14 year old to not jump headfirst into oral/intercouse. It happens, but you should chill for a few years and be happy with what she gives you. Why not ask her? The only way to get what you want is ask, and then be cool with it so you can ask again in a week

[grapemonkey]

I hate to be the parenting type but you are only 14. You probably need to be happy with what you have so far. Don't pressure her into anything.

[PlsrNPain]

Don't pressure her. If you care about her in the least, you'll let her take her time. Don't get frustrated with her, just realize that she's young. In the long run if you love her and want her to have a good life, don't hurt her by pressuring her into anything she's not comfortable with weather it's sex or anything else.

[deroxor]

just wait it out or discuss it with her. peer pressure will get to her sooner or later

[Clueless15]

Hey, i am 15(girl i should add) and to use the baseball analigy i am still on 1st base, if i have my bases right! lol, but the thing with me and not going farther is i am a little scared, dont pressure her thats crap, and if she is anything like me she will get tired of it and be like "forget him". thats how my last b/f was. I am going out with a guy that is 17 now, and he puts no pressure on me at all(witch to be honest i was exspecting cuz of the age diff), infact he could care less weither or not we "run to 2nd or 3rd". which shows he accualy likes me for me and itsnt using me for the sexual part of a relationship. you jus need to let her go at her speed or ask her if she wants to go farther( be nice and cassual about it) i love it when a guy asked to do something, it shows respect! if she says no, you can ask why, if she jus doesnt want to , you have to leave it at that , if there is a reason, if you can help her out, like if it is b/c she is a lil scared, do so but if it is out of your control its jus that! [B]

[PennywiseEvilClown666]

In this situation i'd love to tell you to do what i did when i was that age. Think of it like a road map. If one road won't get you to where you wanna go, then get off that road and turn onto another that will get you where you wanna be..lol. I know how horrible it sounds, and it is indeed a shitty thing to do. As you can see, i was all about getting what i wanted. I wish I hadn't been that way then, but i was and can't change it so i learned from my mistakes.
Now that im older, 22, and have experienced more of life's twists and turns i can give you much better advice. Address it with her and see how she feels. If she isn't ready to go any further, then you have to accept it. Trust me, if you do, it will pay off in the long run as not only will you be happy with yourself but she will hold you in very high regards for that. She will go for it when she's ready!
Don't think it's just because of the age, because that may not be true. I was 17 and was with a girl who was 13 turning 14 for about seven months. I never once asked her about sex or even put any moves on her. Then, we went on a little picnic one day and she asked me about it. I told her she had better think it over because she was young. She said she did, and so we did it. So, the moral of the story is good things come to those who wait. Ask her about it, and if she's just not ready then give her some time. She'll come around!