the right time?

[_whenloversdie]

i'm new here. i know i should be talking about this with my boyfriend but i'd like some advice.

my boyfriend and i have been dating for almost 3 months. i'm somewhat older than him. he's 15 and i just turned 17. before he and i got together, i had been dating a guy close to my age. he was only a year older. that relationship lasted around 9 months. things happened. and that ended. i've had sex with two people. i lost my virginity when i was 15. the guy i was with before the guy i'm with now was completely into sex 24/7. and it got kind of annoying. i figured if he liked me as much as he said he did, he'd wait. so we didn't have sex until 6 months into the relationship. it was easy with him to be comfortable with sex and sexual activities because he wasn't a virgin and he was experienced. the guy i'm with now, well, he's a virgin. we haven't exactly talked about sex. but he's told me before that he wanted his first time to be with me. i never really brought it up again because i feel so uncomfortable about it because he's a virgin.

when a relationship is new, it takes a lot to make me comfortable. i know this sounds a bit odd but, signals and little hints don't go well with me. if the guy i'm with wants something, he must tell me. i've never been with a guy whose a virgin before. so i'm scared to take the relationship any further because i'm afraid he isn't comfortable with it or he's not ready, although he's told me he wants to. we would fool around, and it would get so heated, but then i freeze and i just can't seem to take it any further. not even oral sex. and he's afraid to initiate anything with me because he said it's my choice. and i think it's his if he's the virgin.

i know this is a long post. but i need some advice on how to maybe initiate something. get things started. the way the relationship is now leaves some sort of exciting mysterious thing to it. but i want to be closer to him. and not to mention sexual frustration. on both parts. :/ ack.

[ebony21]

if either one of u isnt comfortable then its a sign to wait!!

ps- if he is 15 then u could be charged with rape as he is underaged, i know it sounds boring but its worth waiting till he is at the age of consent!!