liking other people

[deroxor]

i just want to know if its a big deal if your GF/BF likes another person. my g/f does and she says that doesnt change her feelings for me, i believe her but i just wanna know if i was making too big of deal about it

[Tjdude]

I guess it depends on a lot of factors. One could be age and level of maturity, another one could be the stability of your relationship, trust, communications, etc. But my theory is that if she trust you enough to tell you who she likes, it means it's not big of a deal. Although one thing you can try is to go and tell her that you like one of her friends or something like (but explain later that you don't) that and see how she reacts. Maybe she'll get the hint that some declaration like that can make you feel insecure or uncomfortable.

[Anne15]

I can't really say about what your girlfriend is feeling. It is a really good sign that she can tell you that, though. I just know that in my personal experiences this can lead to some trouble. However the fact that she told you how she feels is a big sign of a great relationship. Good luck.

[nodoubt16pb]

Hmm liking people or having a little crush is perfectly natural... if not then a human being would be encaptured... so yes it is... but the thing that wouldn't be good is if a bf/gf took it to the next level like going out to dinner with them, spending a day with them etc. things you would do with her/him... or if she/he talks about him/her A LOT. I have a boyfriend and i have told him i had old crushes before him that i think are still cute and he is ok with that... I am ok with the same thing... we don't fight over it cuz we both know that we love each other and we won't do that cuz we both have been tempted..you just gotta trust that he /she won't go any farther than a little enfatuation with the guy/girl.

[sexykitty]

What exactly does she mean when she says she "likes" someone?

[deroxor]

if ur askin how much she likes him . i dunno.. but she started liking him cuz they are best friends and became so close... well thats wat she told me anyways. but i know she loves me but i sumtimes get stressed out over it. it sounds like it isnt that big of a deal from wat you all are saying, so thanks for u input

[sexykitty]

If she likes him as a friend, there's no problem, but.... if it's more I would watch out. Women should not be "liking" other men when they are in a relationsip. IMPO

[deroxor]

no....its more than a friend, so does that mean im in a danger zone rite now?

[nodoubt16pb]

Hmm.. i am sorry to say but just stick in there till you have reasons to be suspicious about this guy..... tell her how much you are hurt though and let her know how you are sad that you don't seem enought for her and just tell her how you feel and let is go from there.

[sexykitty]

If I were you I would be very uncomfortable having my significant other being interested in someone else. In fact I would end the relationship, it's not fair to you. I can't believe that she told you she liked someone else and expects you to be ok with it. If you are in an "open" relationship that's one thing, but if I came home and told my husband that I "liked" someone else, I know that he would not be ok with it, nor would I.