Missing him...

[Vixen916]

Ok I may not be able to respond for the weekend I'm going out of town but here is my problem and I will check the thread as soon as I can...
I would like more time with him but he works 50+ hours a week, the time just is not there. He is already lacking sleep... I know I sound too demanding, I need to understand better that he is just overworked and tired.
But lately, he has been acting distant. We normally spend 2-3 nights together, just us. On Monday he never called, never showed. On Tuesday he showed up an hour late and left after only a half hour. He seemed really distant. I asked if something was wrong and all he said was 'i'm just tired.' So I am just curious, I know this isn't much info but is he just tired, what should I do, back off, give him space?
I doubt he's cheating but he may be since he is standoffish... The last few times we have been together he just seems like he is ready for it to end. He tells me all the time he enjoys being with me and he hopes I enjoy it but I still can't help but doubt since he's been so distant..
If anyone has had a similar situation id appreciate you sharing it with me... like I said, it may be a few days before I can reply...

[Disturbed1]

hmmm well maybe he is just "tired", stress can do lots to you in all different facets of life. I think that most likely he still enjoys being with you but his work may be catching up to him, kind of like a burn out..its happened to me too. I think in this case is an oppurtunity to do something for him. take him to a spa, or give him a message and let him know you care, just pamper him for an evening or a day.

[A Soldare]

He might be stressed, and your concern may be showing, making him think you're expecting to end it

try taking a day offm, the both of you, and just relaxing with some messages good food, and maybe a little wine

sex is god too

[nodoubt16pb]

I, personally, beleive he is working too much for himself. If you have kids or if you have a nice house then he is trying to work hard for it. If yuo really want to be there for him tell him... look you don't have to work so much for me... and that i would be happy to live in a smaller house if it means that i get to spend time with yuo... guys often think that if they are not providing for their families then they are failures just let him know how you feel... if you want to show him the post you put up and make him realize that even though he can't help the hours he works... now... let him know how you feel and how important the hours you spend with him are. Situations like this are hard but i know that if you guys truely love each other then you will work it out
And the don't accuse him of cheating ... whether he is or not... it will hurt his feeling and bring him down and then he will become more distant... just if he is then eventuually the truth will come out
Hope i helped
And i agree with what a soldare said

[Vixen916]

we don't live together. we have our own places so he isn't doing it for me and our relationship is only 6 months old... I do appreciate all of your input though. I am going to try to just keep it to myself and not ask him so much what's wrong. I'm sure he hates that.

[lunaknight]

There will be happy times and there will be rough sailing. That's basically how it goes.

Currently both me and my girlfriend are writing midterm exams for university (there are $6000 tuitions riding on these... talk about pressure ) ... so we've been a little distant for the past 2~3 weeks. It hasn't been fun, but it's not us, it's outside pressure.

Give it a little while before you worry too much.
Otherwise, just offer to sit down and chat about what's going on lately... sometimes just ranting a bit helps people deal with the junk that goes on from day to day.