Her Period Problem help!

[Tragz]

hey,

This past week has been the freakest week for me and ex-girlfriend. Me and her are friends now, but this week was strange. It started on Tuesday when i saw her at school. I came up to her as usual to get her to smile and start a conversation. But this time when i do my usual she turned her back to me. I called her name out but she wouldnt answer me or look at me(STRANGE). So i asked her friend next to her what the matter she said " Must be a bad day". All day long i tried and tried to talk to her but she wouldnt talk or look at me. Everytime she would look at the ground or just walked away not even noticing me call her name out 100 times(Strange).I finally got her to talk to me in a letter i wrote. I asked her what the problem was and she told me " Its a stage shes going through" I thought to myself must be her period. So I asked her what it was and she said " I just wanna be alone". So i left her alone for the day and called her when i got home. No answer.

Wensday I thought she would be out of it but it was even worse. I did my usual greeting but she still wouldnt look at me or talk. I asked more of her close friends what was the problem with her but all they would tell me is " They dont no either". OK.... Now im really worried that its something deeper than her period cause her close friends didnt no. Still the whole day she wouldnt talk or look at me or return my phone calls.

Thursday I thought for sure she would be out of it but i wouldnt try to talk to her but i knew i would get the same treatment. And the whole day she didnt talk to me or look at me. So now im starting to get pissed cause the girl that tells me " she loves me" and im her best friend wont tell me what wrong with her. Usually she would tell me her personal problems but why not this time(Strange). I couldnt sleep the last couple nights, wondering what was up with her. So i get a chance to talk to her on Thursday.

Ive been dieing to hear what her issue was and to my suprise it was her she said Period. I flip out on her cause she couldnt tell me that she was on her period. I told her about how i was VERY worried about her and im mad becuase of what she did. She said that the problem was personal. Personal, where 16 and 17 and periods are personal to this girl. The same girl that told me we couldnt have sex cause she was on her period(what the F***). I didnt buy it. Im thinking its another lie to cover up something. I was to mad at the moment to even say anything else so i told her bye.

This is not the first time this girl has had a period. I been knowing this girl for 7 months and this is the first period that she wouldnt talk or look at me. I dont care how bad of a period any girl has its disrespectful to not tell someone you love what making you look so miserable.~STRESS~

Was i wrong for flipping out on her? Or is it all a lie?

[demonbuttercup]

i would say yes there is probably something else bothering her not her period. its not likely that just all of a sudden a period would have such an effect on her if her past periods were not so drastic but stranger things have happened.
maybe when she said she wanted to be left alone you should have not kept trying to talk to her and call her. i know when im in a mood and dont want to be bothered and people are constantly asking me "whats wrong?" and there might not be anything in particular im just having a bad day then all there questions put me more in a pissy mood. maybe if you are more patient w/ her instead of demanding that she tell you whats the matter. maybe it is something VERY personal at home or something and she just isn't ready to talk about it. but if you are patient and just show her you are there for her w/out pressuring her maybe she'll come around and tell you whats going on on her own. i hope this helps
good luck!

[Tragz]

thx for the advice but think about this.

You and your partner have very deep feelings for each other and you talk EVERYDAY. theres not a day that goes by that you wouldnt talk. And all of a sudden your loved one wont look or talk to you and wants to be left alone.

--If you really loved that person you would be worried and wouldnt stop til you atleast knew what the problem was--

I agree with you i think its more than just a monthly Period.
somethings up

[demonbuttercup]

if you guys are so close then why is she your ex girlfriend?
maybe her problem has something to do w/ another guy so she doesn't feel comfortable talking about it. i dunno?
i agree and can see why you would be worried but if she wants her space then you should respect her request. hopefully soon she'll feel like talking and you'll be able to find out whats troubling her and help her through it.

[Hello]

women use t he excuse of being on their period far too often, but this is something more.

it seems like therte was something badly up with her, and while it was a bitch of her to treat u the way u did, if u feel the way u say u do for her, then her problems are of utmost importance to u, and so its ur job to try help her resolve them.

i know what its like, my g/f gets like it sometimes, and just refuse to tell me whats up, so i gotta leave it, its a bitch and makes me feel a whole lot worse, but its something i put up with, she may tell me eventually and then i know it can b sorted, but if she dont wanna tell me then that is her decision. she shouldnt b shitty with u sure, but u also over reacted al ot, and maybe a dded a whole lot to her problems, try being more reasonable, and support her throught her shittyness, cause in the long run it might turn out better

[Tragz]

thx for the advice HELLO I wrote her a letter today at school becuase i knew that was the only way she would talk to me. When i came up to her today for the first time she actually looked at me and said my name. But the whole day shes been playing ghost around school and i had to walk into one of her classes to find her. So i give her this letter first sentence i said i was sorry about hangin up on her on the phone but i told her i was mad. I told her why i was mad and my doubts about her little "period" story. (sounds nicer than it seems) Than i askdc her how much respect did she have for me to leave me worried. I told her to look at what she did in my point of view. How i feel about it all.

[?wiseman?]

Tragz, you're starting to do down a dangerous path now. Remember, this is about HER, not you. If there is something really bothering her which doesn't involve you, you have no right to turn her problem into your pain. I can tell you really care for this lady, so give her some space and let her come to you if and when she's ready to talk about it. Making her feel guilty won't help her get over her issue and it won't endear you to her either.

The next note you give her should be an apology for pressing her; and let her know that you're there for her when she's ready to talk.

[ItalStall]

Tragz ... you are getting some good advice here.

[girlygirl]

I'm with wiseman. Have you tried looking at it from her point of view? If she is so upset about something that she can't talk about it with a close friend, she probably has issues of her own to deal with. What she needs from her friends right now is emotional support and not someone constantly pestering her and taking his anger out on her. I would advise you to leave her alone for a while, and if she does want to talk, don't bring this subject up unless she does first. If she wants to tell you what's wrong she will tell you. Getting angry at her will make her less willing to share her problems with you, not more.

[Tragz]

thanks for the advice but it was alittle to late. She called me on Saturday night and told me that it was a family problem. We had a agurement over why am i so worried about her and what we both did. On sunday i called her and apologized for me getting all mad at her but i added that i was worried. She accepted and we talked like normal. I guess we are back on cool terms again. I'll just have to wait til she feels comfortable enough to tell me the whole deal.