telling the parents

[ilusteph]

Me and my gf were just in your shoes, we ended up talking to our parents about it...
Her parents LOVE me, but her parents are very strict.. one day she just told me that she told her dad we were having sex, im like "OMG!! what did he say!" she said that he was happy for her, that she found the one special guy, wich is really great!
..So i decided i needed to tell me parents about it... i did, it went well, all they cared about was that i didnt regret it (wich i didnt! at all!) and that it was safe...
she is on the 'patch' and we use condoms
by the way.. it was the first time for both of us.

i hope this helps you out.. just be honest!

[sweetiez]

Oh wow..most people dont tell their parents. im quite surprised i think thats really good you too want to maybe if u both were there telling them at the same time would be easier tell them how much you too care about each other and let them know i really wish u alot of luck on that!

[unknown]

well i had to tell my mom b-cuz i was afraid i was pregnant... i think its good that you want to let them know.. it would be better to tell them now than to wait until you have to like i did.. thank god i wasnt pregnant and now im glad that i did tell my mom b-cuz i hate lying to her

[john doe]

I need help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Me and my girlfriend have been going out for 8 months.

I love her with all my heart, god,i really do but there is a problem.....................

Her parents dont know that i am going out with her and i just dont know what to do. She is afraid of her dad, and i want to talk to him but i dont want him to take her away from me like to put her in a different school. i have thought about breaking up with her but it is just to hard, after all we shared in just 8 months, i cant let her go she means the world to me help me, some body, please!!!!!!!!!

[Paul]

You could be over reacting a little bit, I doubt he will move his daughter to another school just to avoid the opposite sex. The last time I checked boys are everywhere... I realise that some Dad's can be over protective but I reckon if you are honest with him and respect him enought o even talk to him about your relationship. He may just like you all the more.

[sh_2000_ca]

ya.. iam pretty sure that your parents will assume that..
for me, my parents just assumed it, and when i tried to tell them, they said they knew..

[sexykitty]

In my experience, boys are expected to be having sex and parents don't overreact with the news. However, no mother of father wants to hear that their baby girl is having sex. The ONLY conversation (IMO) that either of you should be having with your parents is your girlfriend asking her mother about getting on birth control. I can't see anything good coming out of you sitting down with your folks and saying, "hey mom, hey dad, I am having sex with so and so". If you were asked by them, then yes I would say admit to it, but I don't see why you would want to go to them and start up the conversation. You also have to understand that parents will think you are always having sex if you tell them that you are. When you are innocently sitting in your room with your girl and the door is closed, they will think you are having sex. Some new rules may come out of that knowledge - like door open when your girlfriend is over.

[thetease13]

there's no way in the world i would walk up to my parents and tell them i'm having sex.
i'm the youngest in my family and i'm the only girl and i'm daddy's little girl...even if i'm 23.
for the rest of my life i will always be the "baby girl".

i'm sure if my brother walked up to them and told them he was having (he doesn't live here anymore but same concept...and i really don't know if he is or isn't) they'd have much less of a problem and hell, they'd probably throw a party since girls don't exactly fall over my brother (much like guys don't exactly fall over me).

if they ever flat out asked me, i would probably tell them. i wouldn't say who, but i'd probably say yes. the who is my business and not theirs.

and sexykitty is right...if you ever tell them, they will always think you're having sex.
i don't get out of this house enough as it is, and if i ever told them, my chances of getting out again would be slim to none. and they probably wouldn't let me drive anywhere by myself again.

and yes, i'm aware that my parents do need to cut the chord..especially since i am 23. but i said all that because i know my parents aren't the only parents out there like that.

[LadyOfLucidDepths]

Iduno if i was 23.. living at home and my parents.. thought they could "control" me like that, yes you gotta... respect their rules like ytou always have.
but i would be making my own.. and like i dont see why its thier business.. you are an adult

[thetease13]

ok it's not really that i couldn't get out of the house after i told them cause i don't have any friends around here to go anywhere with anyways so i wouldn't really be going anywhere besides school and work like i always am.

it's just that they'd be watching me a lot more carefully and proceed to always think that whenever i went to school or work, they'd think i was off somewhere else.