First to make communication (boy or girl)

[Tragz]

Hey,

Who should be the first to start a conversation boy or girl?

I have this girlfriend that tells me " Shes in love with me" type stuff but cant find the guts to come talk to me if im with my friends. Even when we both make eye contact in the halls at school she wont say anything unless i talk first.Ive always been the first to talk and i did a experiment to see what she would do if i dont talk first. All she would do is ignore me and that really pisses me off cause the girl i love wont talk first.
I talked to her about this and she said that "Girls arent supposed to do that". All she wants is for me to chase her around and i dont believe i need to do that anymore cause we so called "Love each other". Am i right, or is she just twisted?

[demonbuttercup]

well first off i dont think you should be saying you are "in love" if you guys cant even have a normall conversation. to me she sounds like she is acting very immature, how old are both of you?
anyways, a long time ago maybe girls weren't supposed to talk to boys but geez get w/ the times. now i dont think it really matters who starts the conversation as long as you communicate. thats the most important thing.

[Tragz]

she calls me immature all the time cause im 16 and shes 17 or (9 months older). What should i tell her? I told her that what she does is rude but she say thats what girls do.

[Stephanie083099]

I agree with demonbuttercup that if you two cant have a normal conversation then you shouldnt be saying I love you.
That's not what girls do, so tell her that she is wrong, if she really loved you then it wouldn't matter if she said something to you first. Even though you are younger then her it seems like she is the immature one, and if she continues to do this, then she's not going to stop and you need to end the relationship. I would confront her about it and let her know how you feel, and that a relationship is two people, and not just one, because to me it seems like she is not doing her part in the relationship. Well I hope I helped, good luck.

[demonbuttercup]

good point stephanie
yea you definetly sound like the mature one in the relationship.
and like steph said tell her shes wrong, thats NOT what girls do. maybe back in elementary school but not by the time you are 16 and 17. by this age you should be acting more like adults not first graders. just explain to her that the way she acts isn't very polite and hurts your feelings. im sure you could find another girl who would enjoy striking up conversations w/ you at anytime

[Shorty43]

Who cares who starts the first conversation as long as you can both contribute and keep it going? It shouldn't matter if it is the boy or girl. All I want was for some gorgeous man to walk up to me and tell me that he thought I was beautiful and everything he ever dreamed of, me having just stood there and never contacted him. But, I pretty much got the oposite. I started everything with my boyfriend, and I don't regret doing it. Sure I wish that he'd walked up to me and told me i was the girl of his dreams, but I knew it wouldn't happen and I really liked it, so I took matters into my own hands - and we are both very happy that I did.