Girls & nice guys?

[sweet XTC]

i dont know but it seems like every time i fall in love the girl always takes advantage of me cause she knows that the love for her will always be there how do i avoid this. it really pisses me off. i treat my girlfriends like queens and some guys treat there girlfriends like shit but it for some reson their girls are all over them. i meen if this is what i have to do then im gonna do it but i wanna treat women like they should be treated but if i let them know they have me then they will walk all over me. does anyone know what im tlaking about?

[demonbuttercup]

yes sweet i know what you are talking about. it may have to do w/ the age group your girlfriends are in. i dont know how old you are, but more immature girls tend to act this way. you can treat your g/f good w/out you yourself being whipped. there has to be a good balance. hopefully once you get a little older and the girls mature some they will realize those other guys are jerks and that you are something special. maybe you could even look for an older woman now... lol
that would appreciate your kindness and not take advantage of it. hope this helps

[sweet XTC]

i heard that. i think your right on the money.

[Stephanie083099]

I agree, when I was younger I always went for the tough guys, that treated me like shit, now that I am older, I want a guy to be nice, and treat me the right way.

[Eddie]

The old saying "nice guys finish last" is often right for nice guys in certain age groups. They want the fun and thrills of being with a "tough guy". It sucks, but if your friends with some of these girls you can be the sensitive one who she looks towards when her b/f treats her to bad. She could see how sensitive and kind you are and then spread that word that your a decent guy. dont change your ways. Its what makes you, you.

[flower]

I don´t know...i always liked/like guys who threated me well,even when i was younger,not because you can use them or something like that,but just the way how they speak and act makes me....great!
So contionue threating girls like you do,one day you will find one who will know how to enjoy it and get it back!
go forward!

[lonely19yrold]

The "Nice guys finish last" cliche isn't up to the woman in the relationship to decide. It's the guys choice. At least, that's how I've gone about it. If the nice guy isn't proactive in making friends and such, then how can he progress with any relationship? He just can't expect any woman to come to him because their other boyfriend isn't treating her right.

I read somewhere that girls are always looking for sensitive guys that are good looking as well, the problem being that those guys already have boyfriends. well, that is not always the case because, i'm not trying to say that i'm good looking, but I do know how to treat my girlfriend. I hate it when people treat other people like shit. there is no need for it. I know sometimes girls don't appreciate it, but some do. You will find someone who does

[mspersia82]

Look, most women do like nice guys. The number of girls that actually like to be mistreated is very low and those girls are very immature. The problem with many nice guys is that they let women walk all over them. Some are too shy, too boring, or just not attractive enough. I'm not trying to bash nice guys. I'm just going by what I've seen. Many guys think that just because they are nice that that is all they have to do to keep their girlfriend happy. Not true. Women want a man who is exciting, passionate, outgoing, confident, and strong in addition to being nice. You have to have a backbone or a woman might be turned off. Also, I've noticed that many nice guys are attracted to "bad girls". Maybe it's the whole opposites attract thing. I don't know. I'm a nice girl and when I was single it seemed like I would only attract jerks (which I hate). The nice guys would pass me right up to go for the "bitch" or the easy girl that would put out right away.

Another thing, the reason many girls may date "jerks" is because jerks tend to be attractive. That is why they can afford to be jerks, because some women will always put up with their jerky behavior just to date an attractive man. Women want to be attracted to their mate too, don't get it twisted. Many guys expect a girl to date them just because they are nice and not worry about looks at all. Women are visual creatures just as men are. Also, some women (myself included) have dated jerks not knowing they were jerks. Many men talk a good game and act nice in the beginning. Then once you get to know them better they show their true colors. By that time, the woman may already be attached and find it hard to break up with the guy. Or she may remember the good times and want to believe that the jerky behavior is just a phase. Most women don't date guys that are jerky to them upfront. You men may be able to spot a jerk easily but many women can't. Just like we women can spot a girl who is no good a mile away but many men can't. However, I think bad girls make it way more obvious that they are bad. Many men choose to date them anyway just because they are easy (or some other reason) and then want to complain about how women take them for granted. You need to evaluate what kind of woman you are really looking for.

[Junocozmos]

Some girls prefer the nice guys.
Some girls prefer the assholes.
I think, speaking as a woman and not for all women, we go through stages. Most of the younger days are spent chasing the bad guys and older years searching for the good ones.
Live Life.
Good luck.