Qaulity time help!!!

[Tragz]

hey,
Me and my girlfreind have been so called " bf/gf " for the last 4 months but it doesnt seem like we are really together. We rarely spend time with each other. In the beginning she used to work alot and we never saw each other but now I work and we still dont see each other. We make plans to spend quality time with each other but in the end something always happens.
We've discussed the issue and made promises to see each other but we dont see each other. Their alot of reasons to go behind us not seeing each other being School nights, her parents being protective, friends, work. But still in the last 4 months we have only been alone 1 time for 3 hours at the most.
*** The real problem***
I dont no what to tell her. I like her so much and I know deep down that are relationship can work. All we need is time to be together. We get along every good when we are together but when we spend time apart we start feeling very distant from each other. I'm starting to feel lonely again like i didnt have a gf. I dont want to cheat on her but i dont want to leave her either but if I dont do something about its only going to get worse. I need someone so i dont feel lonely what should i do!

[flower]

Don´t fool arround!
Your relationship will not work by itself,it is YOU and HER who have to work ON relationship!
The thing i want to say is that you cannot have relationship if you don´t spend time together.For me that is not relationship if you spent 3 hours in 4 months!
You spent more time with people in school or at work and you still don´t say that you are in relationship with them
The point is that you two have to work hard to meet eachother more often...maybe you could surprise her after her work and take her on a small date for coup of caffee and a sendwich.It doesn´t seam like a prefect date but at least you can talk to her and resolve your problems.
If you two realy love eachother,than it is very unmature to act like that "we don´t have time!"...for the person you love you always have time...even if you have to sleep less
Talk to her and find the way to see eachother more often or your relationship will not work like that for long!!!!

[Shorty43]

Make time. Very simple answer. You both work, work at the same time. Do homework together. Go to each other's houses to do homework, or to a school or local library. Eat lunch together. Why do friends get in the way? Maybe her friends and your friends should all go out together and spending time with each other because of obligations towards friends would be avoided. I mean if you want to spend time together you need to sacrifice hunny, that is how relationships work.

I know that you probably aren't very young, late teens, but I am just surprised at how intimate young relationships are becoming. I did not have a serious boyfriend until college. I high school I had a few guy friends that I hooked up with, for lack of a better term, but nothing major.

I was at a family dinner the other day. I sat next to my 15 year-old male cousin, next to him was his brother (13), and then across from me were two of my female cousins (12 and 17). I was absolutely shocked that all four of them were talking about their dating lives, even the 12 and 13 year-old very seriously. At 12, I might have dreamed of having a boyfriend, but it was never realistic. If any of my friend's had "relationships" at that point in life the relationship was sitting together at lunch, maybe holding hands, dancing at school functions (if the boy would even dance), and if things lasted a peck on the lips here or there.

I was only 12 years-old 7 years ago! My little sister is 12 and if I ever heard things coming out of her mouth like my cousins' I think I'd spend a long time trying to convince my parents to lock her up. Sometimes I think that I am too young for as intimate relationship as I have, but I know and understand the results of my actions.

[Stephanie083099]

well first off, dont cheat on her, it will only make things worse, if you are thinking about being with someone else then maybe you are not meant to be with her. Even though it seems so good when you are together, you shouldnt be thinking about cheating on her. Dont get me wrong, its ok to fantasize about another girl but dont act on it. If you do plan on acting on it, break it off with her first.
Second, I am in a relationship now and in the beginning of our relationship, I didnt want my mother to know about him yet(because she is very protective) so we had to work around that, and we didnt really see each other that much. Its hard to find ways to see each other, but if you really like her then make time, find away to see her, even if you just see her 20minutes a day, you still get to see her. You have to realize that you both have lives besides each other, you have to work around that.
It can work, if you want it to, I didnt think it could work for me and my b/f but now we are still together and I've been with him for over 3 1/2 years. So my point is if you really like her and want to be with her, give it some time, things will work out for the best, if you try.,

[?wiseman?]

IF you are both committed to making the relationship work, then you need to find time to be together. It sounds to me like one or both of you are not really sure that the relationship is worth working on.

You guys need to sit down and figure out if you're going to have a bf/gf relationship or if it's destined to be a friendship only. Sometime's it's just not meant to be and it's best to part as friends. Perhaps when things settle down in your hectic lives, you'll hook up again.