"Asking for a date" advice

[xx22xx]

Well here we go.

I've been out of a relationship since mid January, and I'm pretty sure I'm ready to get back into one. *This isn’t the first person I’ll be with since then because I've been hooking up with other guys since my boyfriend broke up with me. *In other words, I’m not trying to find a boyfriend just to call my boyfriend, A.K.A. a rebound relationship.

I take a class outside of school on Sundays. *It's a six hour class, and there are two classes left. *My point is there's this guy that I've developed a thing for. Normally, I would be okay with just going straight up to a guy and telling him that I'm interested in him, and it usually leads to a date or something of the like. *But this time, it’s not coming to me that easily. *I’m almost 100% sure it’s not because of my last relationship; I think it’s because of the situation of this one. *What I mean by the situation is I don’t know this guy as well as I’ve known other guys that I’ve gotten involved with in the past. *

I definitely don’t want anyone to respond to me as get to know him then see how it goes, because I’m not going to see him outside of the last two classes that we have left, I don’t go to regular school with him, and we don’t live in the same town. *He lives a few towns over. *I mean I talk to this guy and all, and the other girls in the class have whispered to me that he’s always looking at me, and it seems like he likes me. *We definitely have made eye contact across the room more than a few times. *:-D

Part of the reason I’m worried about messing up on this is because he seems shy, and unfortunately, I am too this time around, because as I’ve said I don’t know him as well as I’ve known other guys that I’ve ended up being involved with. *

I feel like I shouldn’t just let this go, you know what I mean? Don’t get me wrong, *I’m not saying like, If I let him go, I’m missing out on falling in love or anything, I just get the impression that he’d make a really great friend and boyfriend, but I don’t just want him as a friend.

So what I’m saying is if anyone has a suggestion as to what I can do with the 12 hours I have left with him to make him realize that I really do have a thing for him without scaring him away. *Please keep in mind that I only have two classes left, and that he’s kind of shy, along with everything else I’ve said. *

P.S. *I’d appreciate it if everyone can reply as quickly as possible because I don’t have much time left. *Thanks. *Also, to help with the time frame, the classes are on Sunday, from 12:00pm-6:00pm, which I think in military time is 1200-1800 and today is Wednesday. *I have class for the next two Sundays.

Thank you in advance to everyone that replies.

[kissable]

I know how you feel....my 2cents about it is, when you make eye contact with him make sure he knows you see him. Maybe smile at him or give a quick wink. Good luck

[hereandnow]

Bite the bullet and ask him out.

Guys are always afraid of getting rejected. If he is shy you could wait forever.

If your friends say he seems interested, chances are very good that he will jump at it.

Trust me on this! Just do it!!

[?wiseman?]

You have to go for it xx22xx. Ask him if he's doing anything after your next class. Class timing is good to take him to a coffee shop or someplace quiet and just talk. You already have some common ground to kickoff the conversation- the class.

Go with casual so neither of you feels uncomfortable. If you don't ask him out, you'll always be wondering "what if?"

[xx22xx]

Originally Posted by [b

Quote[/b] ]?wiseman? Posted on Mar. 06 2003,09:08
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Go with casual so neither of you feels uncomfortable. If you don't ask him out, you'll always be wondering "what if?"

That's exactly the words I'm looking for..."What if..."

[Andy]

The other thing is that suppose he does say no, it's not like you'll ever see him again once the class is over. You should just ask him out.

[yippi]

xx22xx, I was in a similar situation to you not that long ago. I procrastinated and never did work up the courage to ask.

I really regret it now. Maybe it wouldn't have worked out, but maybe ...

[xx22xx]

All right, I'll be seeing him tomorrow morning, thanks for the advice, and I’ll give you all an update when I get home. *

I think I’m going to flirt a little more this time, and see how he takes it, then at the next class, which will be the last class, I’ll ask him to go out or something, but I guess it all depends on how it goes tomorrow. *

So, thanks again, and I’m going to go find a cute outfit to wear.

[xx22xx]

Ok, so I just got back from class.

I decided that I would flirt with him more, I did, and he did too. He gave me a piggy back ride, and he also grabbed my leg so I couldn't move...I took those as good signs.

Also, we made eye contact, and I smiled at him and he smiled back, and I do catch him looking at me a lot! So that’s going to make me happy for the rest of the week, and I guess I’ll make the big move next class!

[xx22xx]

Wow, it’s going to be really hard not to be my 15-year-old-girl self right now and not flip out, but I’ll try!

So today was the last class, and we were allowed to leave as soon as we were done, but we were going alphabetically, and I was at the end of the alphabet, and he was at the middle, so I jokingly said "You're going to wait for me, right?" and he actually said he would but I felt bad because it was a Sunday, and I'm sure he just wanted to go home and rest like we all did, so I told him I would walk him out instead, and he was cool with that, so as the time came I walked him out, and then he asked for my number, so I gave it to him, and then we hugged and he kissed me! So that worked!

Thanks for your help to whoever answered. You really gave me that ‘extra push’ to make it happen!