Newbie at dating

[Shavuot]

Situation
I am only 18, I am not much of a man/kid who has ever been into dating, I used to try and "pimp" girls and "get some" for a long period of time; until I lost my virginity to my older brother's ex which, unfortunately, he happened to come over from his house without a sound and walked in on us. Since then I have stopped the idea of "getting some."
This girl who I have been extremely attracted to has always been a friend of mine, she knows of this encounter with my brother's ex and everything. She is no slut but she sure acts like one. (ie: she flirts, talks to all sorts of guys, ect...) Recently she tells me she is really attracted to me.

problem
May sound retarded but may I remind you that I have not been dating much at all.
I would like to pursue this relationship but I am not sure where I stand at her level with my previous mistakes; furthermore, I would definetely not enjoy any sort of relationship where she continues to flirt with others. Even in her past relationship, she happened to of made out with another guy. (not serious, but I wouldn't put up with it).
How can I let her know that she has to stop at the same time not scaring her away.
I went on my first date with her, which was sort of accidental, and the entire time I never made any moves nor did I ask for any number or for a future meeting. Although, I was nice. How much respect do I lose from that?

[Tjdude]

i think you can take two way here.
One, you can go and tell the girl how you feel about her being kind of a slut (not in those word, but the general idea), and that you want to start something with her but don't want to end up bad. I don't know, maybe she realy like you, and with some effort, maybe you can't make it work. Keep in mind that people don't change from one day to the other, most peorple can't even change at all. So this is the hard way.
Two, don't say any thing, just go and try to start something with her. Have a good time, keeping in mind that something can happen. But you already knew that!, so every thing is cool, just go with the flow, get some experience ... and who knows. maybe it'll work better this way. Well, just some of my thoughts. Hope i could help.

[girlygirl]

I think it is way too early in the relationship to start challenging her behavior. If and when you do become seriously involved with this woman, it will be resonable to ask that she stays faithfull to you. However, if you have only been on one date with her, you have not yet earned that right.

[Shavuot]

*edit* Nah, its all good, thanks.

[hereandnow]

I agree with girlygirl, you are not in any position to make demands.

Also, if you already have a problem with a fundamental part of her character, then ask yourself is she really for you? You shouldn't choose someone who you want to change that much.

If you succeed in changing her, she will probably resent you. If you don't change her, you will be unhappy. Not too healthy a way to start a relationship either way!

[Guido]

Originally Posted by [b

Quote[/b] (Shavuot @ Mar. 02 2003,17:44)]I used to try and "pimp" girls

Err ... pardon my ignorance but what does this mean? I know what a pimp is, but I don't think that is what you mean - is it?

[xx22xx]

I think he's implying that before, he was looking for hook ups, not relationships, in other words, he was a player.