will dating ruin our friendship?

[SRH]

Heres the prob, ive known this girl for 2 years. We stoped talking over the summer but got the same bus stop for skool we have become even closer friends then before.But the prob is now i like her but we have that friend thing goin and i dont want to ruin that if she rejects me so what should i say or do to get it to the next level?

[Tjdude]

well, just ask her out dude, like start talking about a movie that you like to see and ask her if she want to go with you. If she agree to go out with you to what ever place that is not school related, then you know you are on your way . Maybe you are afraid that she might reject you, but believe me, it is a 1000 times better if you just go and find out if there is a chance for you now, and not spend a lot of time not knowing if she like you.
So my advice is just go and ask her out.

[Brandye]

Better to be friends before lovers rather than the other way around. Unless you are looking for a short term thing.

Dude has it right so I am guessing the women are seeing no need to repond.

[LovelyRita]

I have learned that boyfriends come and go, but friends are there forever. I have had feelings for friends before, but I never did anything about it because I value our friendship too much. Plus, there is a history there that you can't have with anyone else.

Well SRH, I like most people have been in the same situation as you. I will not say it is an easy decission to make, and sometimes you might want to know that she feels the same feelings as you so that the whole thing doesn't back fire on you, and sometimes you've just got to put it out in the open for them to reliese.

My advise is the same way I won over a once good friend(a girl). What you should try to do is to become more involved with her and start doing more things together as friends, don't be afraid of your friendship becoming more close. And hopefully the chemistry will flow, and you might even see some signs to go futher. And become closer as you spend more time together, but don't come on too hard too fast.

See what happened to my relationship is we became good friends, and started to spend more time together and I started to tell she was thinking the same thing as I was. So one day when we were alone I said in a carm voice, "Sam(Samantha) I have been having such a good time with you lately and I think your great, I know we have a good friendship but I want to go futher with you and become more than friends. I think it will be like a friendship but much much more, and we can experience more of a deeper connection without worring about what eachother think." And she agreed.

So dude the whole busstop thing is good to build your friendship up to become closer and be able to ask if she wants to go different places with you (movies or lunch ect.). Through this you should find it easier to talk to her and make it easier to drop the bomb on her. And remember don't be afraid and talk everything out with her and don't let this great oppitunity slide.

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[xx22xx]

usually you'll get the feeling if she likes you or not or if there is something between u 2...pay attention to how she acts around you and stuff as a starter...then find out who she likes and see how she acts around them....or just go for it

[shugotenshi]

If you guys have built a strong friendship before you let romance and passion get in the way, chances are (from my own personal experiance..I was friends with my girlfriend for about three years before we started going out..and it's been six months with little more than a single fight so far ^_~) you guys could have something really good going..

See, the friendship helps the two of you understand eachother a bit better, so when something comes up that can crash the relationship..it's easier to communicate, at least in my case it is..

Peace man,
Shugo

[sexyone]

If you are true friends, the friendship will last even if the romantic involvement does not.

I am 26 and have a friend that I've been friends with since I was 5. At one point (around high school) we were romantically interested in each other but both were to immature.

We've had ups and downs and there have been times when I wonder why we are still friends. This friend was my first romantic love and I will always love him. But the way I love him is different than the way I love my husband.

So I believe true friendship is a form of love and true love is never ending. So if it's true friendship, it'll survive even if the romantic attempts do not.

[Shorty43]

Here is some advice that is going to sound pathetic, but I firmly believe it: Don't ruin a good thing! If you guys are friends and you aren't sure she really wants top be more, move on, it would be a shame to loose someone whose friendship you obviously value so much. Sweet and simple.

[xx22xx]

You might regret what you do, but you'll you regret what you don't do so much more.