So, if any of you have read my other post then you know that I love to cyber and have a guy who really rocks my world. 
We are very open with each other and he knows I am interested in experiences with women. My cyber Sweetie has been very helpful in giving advice and opinions on how my first time with a woman should go.
We have even cybered together one time with another woman - somewhat spontaneously but also quite "successfully." LOL Unfortunately, that woman has moved on and seems not to be online much.
We would very much like to find another willing female partner that finds the idea of being with the two of us exciting (cyber only, no real life) or at least intriguing enough to experiment.
This will sound like a plug and ad, but my guy can certainly turn a woman on...and I think I can too. We're all about discretion and keeping things "comfortable" for each other and we understand that we're probably blazing new ground here... most people haven't developed a cyber-ability, let alone a three-way!
So we're prepared for a lot of chat first, until everybody feels we're ready, no pressure. My question is how do we go about finding this woman? Should we both be looking or should it be him or I that find her?
To the ladies here (especially the ones with high sex drives LOL), how would you feel if someone approached you with this idea? Also if anyone here doesn't feel comfortable talking about this in an open forum then please feel free to PM me.
Tessie, it seems as though the internet has just about everything out there. For instance I searched for sex positions and found this site. Did you try to search for cyber sex boards or something along those lines? Maybe you could find someone that way? Don't have any experience with this subject, but just an idea.
don't know if this will help or not...
http://www.cyber--sex.us/free-cyber-sex.html
Wow so many replies in one day and I thought you all didn't care about me.
Greendale, those were very sweet words that you said to me. Thank you so much. I don't go to any cyber chat rooms. I have met people in regular chat rooms that I have had a friendship with and that have on occasion turned into something more. My current man I met on a message board.
I would also say that yes it is based a lot on fantasy. But unlike porn, cybering deals with real people that you have to interact with. Now there are those that do it for the pure sex aspect. I don't do that. I need to feel a connection and an attraction before I can do such a thing.
Experimenter thanks so much for taking the time to find me a link. Very kind of you and I do appreciate it. I don't know if that is what I am really looking for. I would like more of a girl friend that I could share my experience with on occasion for some mutual satisfying fun.
Wally, thanks for your post too. Your right I started this Thread asking a question and I appreciate you coming in and reminding us all what this thread is about. The subject of the right and wrong of cybering while married is best left in another thread if someone wishes to start one.
*holding up a yellow caution sign*
While the debate over the relative merits of cybering and cyber three-ways is interesting, it wasn't the point of Tessie's post, was it?
I know there have been other threads asking about what people consider cheating... it is an interesting subject, often fraught with some serious "double standards." Not to mention some "flexible standards" in the heat of passion. LOL
But I think her question was more to the point of how to approach it... how to "get something going" or at least how to broach the subject in the hopes of finding a like-minded woman.
It's nice to know she hasn't turned off or annoyed people who might not necessarily be interested in trying it for various and sundry reasons. but, can we help her in her quest?
[QUOTE=Quote (Greendale @ July 30 2004,09:22)]But just because a female cybers and has a husband/boyfriend, that is not considered cheating. There is nothing wrong with cybering at all even if women has a boyfriend/husband.
It's just a fantasy world of getting off on something if you're bored of looking at porn all the time.[/QUOTE]
I don't think that entirely true. It depends on what you and your partner consider cheating or not. In my relationship, cybering with someone other then each other, we would consider it cheating. And then there are couples for whom it's totally fine if the partner cybers with someone outside of the relationship. It's different for each couple, and it's up to the couple to decide if they count that as cheating or not.
Well not much of a response or an opinion. Thanks for yours Fury and no I didn't take offense at all or feel judged. I know full well this sort of thing isn't for everyone.
I have not done this with many at all. And nothing like I have now with this one man. It takes a lot of trust and affection for me to really enjoy cybering.
I belong to another board and I get my fair share of PM's from guys that come right out and ask if I wanna. I either ignore them or send back a no thanks.
I am very comfortable with the man I am with now as he is with me. Adding another woman who finds it as exciting as we do can only bring about lots of mutual pleasure.
I'm no woman, but I would love to cyber with Tessie any day. I've seen Tessie's picture and fell in love. She's gorgeous as hell!!!
I agree that cybering is a lot of fun.
Tessie where do you go to cyberchat? pm me the website you go to please.
But just because a female cybers and has a husband/boyfriend, that is not considered cheating. There is nothing wrong with cybering at all even if women has a boyfriend/husband.
It's just a fantasy world of getting off on something if you're bored of looking at porn all the time.
I'd actually kill them. But then, I hate then random guys try to cyber me. I've had many times then people would try to yber me within a minute of messaging me. It's annoying to me and usually would piss me off and person would be blocked. I have however sort of done it with an ex, but he and I knew each other for some times. And not being the most seecure person in the world and not actually alwasy be able to talk very openly about this, especially in the sense that needed for cybering, I would feel wierd and ahd to decline. BUt it's because of my personality and also cuase I don't feel right doing it since I have a bf. I'm glad it's working out for you though. And I hope you don't feel that I'm trying to judge you or bash you or anyhting. Cause I really do like you, it's just that this is how cybering been for me. *blushes*
Greendale, I'd have to disagree with you on this one. If it is a mutually agreed upon decision like in Tessie's case then it would probably be fine, but if the person cybering has not told their spouse (knowing their spouse would not agree with it) then I think that would be a form of cheating, whether you are actually having sex with this person or not, it could still be considered cheating in your mind.