[QUOTE=Quote (Honcho @ Feb. 05 2005,08:34)]Wife and I have been married 35 years and only did cunnilingus once 34 years ago and I thought it disgusting. She is enjoying it with a 24 year old and I want to be able to do it without getting sick to my stomach.  Tell me how to do it and how to overcome my phobia of it. Please help me![/QUOTE]

Well, I am assuming you are not swingers and you do not like swapping wifes, you do not like group sex, she's having an affair with a young man, and this affair is continuing but she still comes home to you....with that in mind....
This is kinda blunt and to the point, no icing to sugar coat it. I hope you are not offended, but desperate pleas require desperate measures.  I am going to imagine I am your wife This is what she would say.
I hope you do not mind. and maybe I am out of bounds here but I will say it anyway.. just a feeling I have...

It will take a while to get her in the mood to do anything passionate. You have lost her or will lose her. You need to find her again. That you are willing to try something that is disgusting to you says you want to find her...(though I am not sure what your motivation for finding her is be it pride or true love) I will hope that it is love so here is what I suggest you do.
first.... you'll have to forgive her and swallow your pride.
second....you will have to make an effort to spruce yourself up and make an effort to not take her for granted. You will have to make an effort to make her feel like an attractive sexy woman again.
third... you need to become fun to be around and to be with.
fourth.. you need to hone your conversation skills and learn to actively listen to her.
fifth... you will have to court and woo her to accomplish this completely.
six...revamp what you do in your loving her. Have you tried something else totally different other than cunnilingus in your loving or is it just the same ol same ol. Tell her you want to take pictures of her. You can get lots of great ideas on these boards of fun playful things to do with each other to spice up the boudoir.
If you really find cunnilingus disgusting, you may not have to do it if you try these things.
seven... study your wife and what she needs and study how to become a better man personally..
try http://www.dnaofrelationships.com/ to start with.

After 35 years, I would say that there could be a boredom factor and self-worth factor involved... so liven things up a bit, break out of your comfy routine and shake things up. Variety is the spice of life. Seize the day and fight for her... and you never know if you open your mind you just might like giving her pleasure by going down on her.... I didn't like blow jobs at first, but hey what's a girl going to do when every man on earth craves them... I can't imagine not doing them now. They are delicious. It's so much fun having a big strong man become puddy in your hands er mouth.. and making him feel wonderful.

of course this could just all be hot air in regards to your question, but my experience is when we try to make ourselves a better person all around it will affect all areas of our lives.

If you really hate it, then I don't think it is a good idea to try this. We all have things we hate - thats just life. If we really care about someone, ultimately we don't want them to do things they dislike intensly.

If you haven't really given it a go however, then maybe it isn't quite as bad as you think... a little give and take may be in order for someone you care about.

Unless you are swingers, it sounds like you have a few problems. My guess is that lack of oral sex may not be the real issue and it is very unlikely to be the solution (unless you have a 12 inch tongue and can breath through your ears!!!).

The information you provided is a bit minimal. If you share a little more, then the many fine folks here will gladly offer thier advice.

Good luck.

If you really hate it, then I don't think it is a good idea to try this. We all have things we hate - thats just life. If we really care about someone, ultimately we don't want them to do things they dislike intensly.

If you haven't really given it a go however, then maybe it isn't quite as bad as you think... a little give and take may be in order for someone you care about.

Unless you are swingers, it sounds like you have a few problems. My guess is that lack of oral sex may not be the real issue and it is very unlikely to be the solution (unless you have a 12 inch tongue and can breath through your ears!!!).

The information you provided is a bit minimal. If you share a little more, then the many fine folks here will gladly offer thier advice.

Good luck.

Very good points Tess.

It seems a shame that you only tried it on her once and never did anything afterwards to make it better. It is something that is very intimate and enjoyable. Also, thinking its disgusting isnt exactly a nice addition to your sex life...

I'd really like to know if she performs oral on you? If so, it really isnt fair that you dont try to perform it on her.

You say you have a phobia of it? Thats a little drastic- sounds like you are just scared of getting sick to your stomach again. I'd repeat what Tess said and make sure she is clean, and just try to get used to it.

It's a shame you find it disgusting and went so many years not doing it. Are you wanting to just do it now because the wife is getting it from someone else. I assume you two are swingers?

The only way that you are going to like doing cunnilingus is change your mind set first of all. We are talking about a very intimate sex act that involves a body part of the woman you love. It shouldn't be a chore but a pleasure.

What exactly about it makes you sick to your stomach? If its the taste well you just got to get used to it. Took me a long time to be able to like my hubby's taste but I did. As long as your wife is very clean. I think its best to do this right out of the shower.

Does your wife complain that you don't perform this on her? Does she give you oral?