OK so me and my boyfriend have been hooking up. He always fingers me and can get me to orgasm so then I'll give him a handjob. Anyway, he's never had an orgasm. He usually cums pretty fast, like in 5 minutes but he's never had an orgasm with me.
Any tips or anything? I asked if I should keep going and he said he wouldn't be able to cum again and like wouldn't let me near his dick.
> I'll give him a handjob. Anyway, he's never had an orgasm. He usually cums pretty fast, like in 5 minutes but he's never had an orgasm with me.
Is this one or two situations? Please clarify. Do you mean that he has never ever had an orgasm while climaxing, or, that he has yet not yet with you? **
> Any tips or anything?
The male climax happens in two parts-
Pt. 1) The orgasm
Pt. 2) followed a split second later by an ejaculation
The movement of semen through the system greatly intensifies the orgasm.
Now, having defined how this phenomenon usually occurs, while unusual, it is not unheard of for there to be an ejaculation without an orgasm. It has been my experience that if this is to occur it does so during the third or later orgasm in a multiple string, perhaps as a result of being more difficult to trigger.
The movement of semen through the system is more-or-less anticlimactic. Semen is expelled, yet we are left feeling unsatisfied.
> I asked if I should keep going and he said he wouldn't be able to cum again and like wouldn't let me near his dick.
Masturbation rarely causes the Glans of the penis to become too sensitive to touch, yet wonder of wonders, when in the presence of a loved one, it can and does. Why? Because we are aroused and turned on to a much greater degree and the hypersensitivity is the result of a chemical release in the brain. Males experience this temporary condition immediately after climaxing. Women on the other hand experience this immediately before. Go figure....
For him, if one or both of you do want to continue the proceedings, give him five minutes or so for the condition to go away. You can keep him aroused by continuing to caress and fondle his body. Keep in mind that it will also take between fifteen and thirty minutes of R&R (rest and recouperation) before he will be able to climax again. So, do not try for the next orgasm too soon after the previous one. I'm just saying that if the two of you want to continue making out, you can, just not involving the penis for the first several minutes until the hypersensitivity goes away. Continuing the make out session will keep his level of arousal fairly high so that when the time is right for another climax, you won't have to build him up from a cold start.
For her, the solution is to continue stimulating the clitoris albeit indirectly. This is accomplished in the following ways-
* folding the inner labia over the clitoris and massaging the clitoris through them
* fingering, massaging, and tugging on the labia that will then involve the nerves of the clitoris indirectly
* rubbing the shaft of the clitoris that lies buried beneath the skin of the upper Vulva
** If your fella has never experienced an orgasm even when masturbating, then I think it is fair to recommend that he have a medical consult with his doctor and then a specialist. This is way not normal.
I hope this is of help. Got questions?
well i know that like it's not unheard of to cum without an orgasm. But it's happend like 3 times now. And he says he's had an orgasm on his own. SO I'm just wondering if it's something I'm doing, or if he's nervous or soemthing like that.
But thanks for the info about the hypersensitivity or whatever that was.:)
That's what it was.
As long as he is able to masturbate and climax then we know his bodily functions are normal.
If he is able to climax by his own hand but not yours then I suggest reading the following link and putting the information to good use.
How Do I Get Him/Her to Orgasm From a Hand/Blow Job?
If, after working on this you have additional questions or concerns, please ask.