Usually when you're highly aroused, I've found, it's very hard to prolong the feeling. Sometimes you are so excited that there's nothing you can do. Wearing a condom seems to help, and I know a friend who bought her boyfriend some numbing cream. For me, prolonging the feeling is easier if I concentrate on pleasing my girlfriend, of making it longer so she gets the enjoyment - usually thinking about holding onto your load makes it a little easier to do.

when u are just starting sex it is harder to last longer but with more experiance come more timetry mixing it up with a little oral stimulation on her
hope it works

yeah man, maybe you are just really excited (because your having sex for the first few times) and its making you come to quick.

as you progress the amount of time should become longer.

and like casualty said, concentrate on pleasing your partner so that you might be able to not come as quick.

Dunno if this help, but my friend told me to have sex for longer periods of time, he just thinks of something else besides sex

that might not be a good thing, because then youll lose your erection.

i mean cmon, your having sex and you are thinking about sports, or what you are going to eat tommorow for lunch. to me that sounds like you could lose your erection that way.

There is a condition prevelent among all young men up through their mid twenties called "Premature Ejaculation". It manifests itself in relationships and not all that much when masturbating, although it can. P E is all about having a failure to communicate with yourself and the sensations you feel being caressed, and, being able to deal with them on a conscious level withouth them taking over and transporting you right into an orgasm when you do not want to have it just yet. P E is most prone to happen when we are in the company of our lover because this pairing significantly increases our arousal.

P E happens during the first minute or two, not after. When an orgasm happens five or ten minutes later and is unplanned, we simply say that it is untimely and unfortunate. Regardless of when the unplanned orgasm happens, the cure is the same. Do a search of the site using my name and the search terms PE, P E, exercise, premature ejaculation, and read what I have to say on the matter.

Briefly, you can learn to last longer, however, you must understand that the fundamental differences between male and female arousal. Women agree that if intercourse lasts ten minutes or longer it is too ooo long. They become tire, bored, and sore. {Please read this again.) Something else to know, understand, and read again, is the fact that the act of intercourse is NOT for building and increasing arousal. The purpose of stroking and thrusting during intercourse is to peak an already intense level of arousal that was derived from a lot of kissing, and fooling around beforehand.

The exercise I urge couples learn is a longterm fix. Brandye recommends the "Squeeze" technique that is for immediate implimentation on the fly when all else is about to fail. You can do a forum search as well as a search of the internet on this.

i thought that "squeezing" your penis when about to orgasm was un healthy..?

your welcome! ^_^

i think like 2 girls answered this topic, so yes girls too! :p

Nope, not in the least.

The "squeeze technique" requires that your partner clamp down on it as hard as possible for several seconds in order to cause the man's sense of urgency (to orgasm) to go away. It is like a "bait and switch" tactic that fools the brain by sidetracking or perhaps interrupting the flow of sensations that say get ready to cum...now do it.

The nerves in the shaft seem to be deep-seated which is why most of us grip it fairly hard when stroking; of course this doesn't explain why the opposite works wonders on us when we lightly graze over the surface with a lubricated hand. Anyway, Champ, to the best of my knowledge you cannot squeeze too hard.

http://en.mimi.hu/sexuality/squeeze_technique.html

http://www.bettersex.com/sexencyc/sex-dictionary/Squeeze_Technique.html

http://www.sexdictionary.info/squeezetechnique.html

ah ha!

ok, thanks :)

i can give my opinion, good or bad, but i still gots lots to learn :p :)